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What is the ideal age to pop someones cherry/give your cherry away? Would you say it's different for boy's and girl's?
If you're leaving a comment, please tell what age you lost your virginity at.
| 13-15 | 245 | |
| 16 | 228 | |
| 17 | 261 | |
| 18-22 | 545 | |
| 22-25 | 162 | |
| Other (Add a comment) | 92 |
I completely agree, it depends on the person. I know people who were ready at 14ish, I'm 17 and I'm not ready yet.
You wouldn't be sure at 12... I'm sure ariannel meant when you are of legal age and sure of it. Personally, I lost mine when I was 14 and don't regret it.
I doubt someone would be SURE at 12 years old. I certainly wasn't. I just think that there should be no judging on what age is appropriate or "perfect". The best age is when you're comfortable and ready (enthusiastic, even) for it. If you're nervous or scared or self-conscious or uncomfortable, that would NOT be ideal.
Sex should be fun and enjoyed with someone you like and care for. Well, that's just my opinion anyway...
Sex isn't just for precreation you can have sex for pleasure to get intimate with your partner or both even casual sex.
Err... wrong. dealwithit.jpg
Sex is for pleasure and intimacy, it's one of the most wonderful things you can share with a partner.
I would say when you find someone you love and after you get married.. (i don't really think age matters) knock your selves! out but not literally. Really though i only intend to lose my virginity after marriage. And if im getting married it will only be to whom i love.
it does not depend on age it depends on if you are ready..and if i have to say a specific age i say 18 up
why does everyone assume it's teenagers who can't keep it in their pants? I'm 18 & still a virgin, there are MILFs who have less control than me.
Amen Amen you have a very firm argument. And what's all this instinct crap how is it instinct to go around having underage sex we are not retarded.
If both want to have sex then I don't think it matters what age they are. As long as they use protection. I'm from Sweden though and we start really early to teach about safe sex in school, so unwanted pregnancys aren't so common. I guess it's different in other countries.
16 or older.
The girls in my high school that lost it younger than 16 were targeted by the older boys because they were considered "easy". Those girls never knew that people were calling them sluts behind their backs, even the ones in relationships. Everyone was so catty back then.
I'd be interested to know what you think about my comment after our earlier discussion about consent and incest and all that shit.
I don't see your comment. :(
I should have specified that I think 16 is a little high and that I think it depends a lot more on the individual than the age. Not everyone is ready at the same time. It sucks that girls who lost it, before they were 16, were targeted because the boys of the same age were not. A total double-standard.
I lost my virginity at 19, but looking back, I think I could have been very happy losing it at 15/16. I had lots of suitors, but I waited for fear of being gossiped about or called a slut.
no. gay/ straight isn't based only on sex & it appauls me when people act like it does. that's part of the reason gay marriage isn't passing...
saying that gays are "promiscuous & non committed"
of course, because everyone gets married for these reasons. (sarcasm if you couldn't tell)
Age is just a number and is differnt on everyone. when ever it happens I say, just go with the flow as long as you want it to happen any age is okay
Are we talking as in today, with americanized values, or are we talking today, with worldwide values, or are we talking at an average for humanity?
Yeah I should have broken those down and just said them instead of asking.
2000's : Americanized values - 17
World value - 14
1800's : Americanized values - 21
World values -14
1500's : Americanized - Didn't exist. Church was 22.
World - onset of puberty roughly 12 with church consent
1000 or before : Americanized- didn't exist, prechurch was 16
World - onset of puberty
Roman/Greek Empires - Boys and girls were handed to friends/neighbors for start of apprenticeship. Usually included sexual training. 8-10 was start.
Humanity as a whole - the average age a girl lost virginity was around 11. The average age a boy lost his was around 18. Often times this was so he would be old enough to support a girl, and she was young enough to survive childbirth. Even today some cultures feel having a period is a waste of a potential pregnancy, and start the girls having sex before they have their first period.
American values are the result of parents who did not want (irresponsibly) to teach their children birth-control and as a result, do not want to take care (responsibility) of unwanted pregnancies, thereby passing rediculous laws with social stigmas as a result...
I think I'm okay with social stigmas that make people think twice about having sex when they aren't ready. If you're thinking twice, then you're probably not ready.
I'm all for teaching children about birth control, though. Just telling them not to do it is pretty bad parenting and the cause of many unwanted children, including from the parents who say they never did it until they were married.
There is no perfect age but if you have to before your athleast 18 remember protection...
t's common for a Girl to have lost Her Virginity from the age of 12 to 16 as opposed to the sweet old fashioned notion of Her waiting for "The Right One" this can be along the adage that "Girls Mature Faster" Most guys live on boast so they will fabricate about How early they lost it an may in fact be still UNDIPPED. But if a Guy hasn't lost it by 21, He probably will be regarded as an Onanist in His social circles. 18 is actually when You should get started. It's the Last call to get oriented with the gender You are attracted to.
I can't answer. I was 15 and much to young. If I had the proper guidance in life I believe it would have been much later. And at that age you don't even know the difference between lust and love. When you truly love someone and they truly love you back. Then the two of you need to discuss the matter together and decide what is right for you. It can only happen once so don't let peer pressure or some jerk talk you into it or feel obligated just because you kiss or something and he gets all hard and horny.
I was 17 a month before my 18th birthday. I think i would've lost it earlier if it wasn't for my strict up bringing. I'm glad i didn't though cuz I'm still making mistakes at 20 which i wont anymore I'm gonna stay safe no matter.
probaly arund 8-9 i took my sisters and my cousins virgintity at that age son
I said 18-22. I lost mine when I was 15 though. I wish I had waited until I was an adult to make big decisions like that.. I don't regret how I lost it or anything, it was actually really nice. With a guy I ended up dating for two years and it was his first time too.
But anyway, I would go for the age of "adult-hood". Sex in high school makes everything complicated and painful. Emotionally, and probably physically too I guess. I'm just rambling now so I'll stop.
I wish I had lost mine in college but being the loner that I am I still haven'. I am 26 and really looking forward to my first time (girl here). Till then, just me and my hand.
Never. I'm 24 and still a virgin. Never been asked out. Just a forever alone nerd who sits in the corner playing on World of Warcraft.
P.S. I'm a girl.
I was 12 years but It's not really about age it's when you and your partner feel your both ready, and when you are use a condom.
don't get pushed into something you don't feel comfy with.
I say 16, because that's when i lost mine.
But 15 and younger shouldnt do it
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13 and younger shouldnt even think about sexs.
But older you are, the better it is.
Other:
when you feel ready (although over 18*)
* or whatever age your local age of consent is
And thats because ''you had alot of moments that didn't last forever now your in this corner trying to put it together how to loooovvvee how ta loooovvve mmm lol jokes its probably because you were anticipating sex from marriage which made you yearn for it even more that's my hypothesis.
You would be fighting your natural instincts, which is unhealthy and would make you appear constantly anxious in social circumstances. What about birth-control? (taught before age 12) And where does it say that the young girls parents have sole responsibility? The boys parents have equal responsibility! If the father is 18+, sue for child support.
16 or 17 IF mature enough to handle the responsibilities possible risks and stress that is associated with it. Also, only if the partner is 17 or 16. It would probably be better if 18+, but 16 or 17 is the minimum.
The age when you're emotionally stable, and financially able to give birth to and raise a child.
I was 18 when I lost my virginity.
The issue of underage sex is something that I'm trying to resolve philosophically. I am firmly against pedophilia, as I believe that a child's brain is not yet developed enough to give valid consent. But I also believe that a good age of consent would be 16 or 18 - both years before neurological adulthood (around age 25).
I think most people would agree with me on both points (in most countries pedophilia is illegal, and legal adulthood is under 20), but are they not somewhat contradictory?
And why do we think it becomes acceptable when BOTH people involved are neurologically underdeveloped? That both parties on equal footing in terms of immaturity may solve the power imbalance but it doesn't really eradicate the dangers of sex - dangers which are much more serious when you're that age.
Anyone have thoughts on this?
Neurological adulthood for: women is 25-27, men is 29-32. These numbers are acedemic as your body & mind will signal you when you are ready for sex, as having a roof over your head or money in your pocket has no bearing on your bodies sexual responses, needs, intense desires or feelings of longing to be intimate with another person.
When properly using protection, what are the dangers?
I've seen a wide variety of numbers for neurological development and the median seems to be around 25. Could I ask for your source on those ages?
Sexual adulthood is entirely different from cognitive development. A thirteen year-old may be physically capable of rearing a child, but I would argue that a thirteen year-old is simply not neurologically mature enough to provide legitimate consent. I'm not entirely sure what you're trying to argue.
I was 19, and I seriously don't know how I lasted waiting that long. :) I don't regret a thing.
It really depends on how mature you are and how sucessful the relationship is, and whether or not you can handle the emotional part that comes with it, and if you understand the potential risks and consequences.
I'm going to say 13 because that's pretty much the average these days no thanks to the media.
*cough*Ke$ha*cough*KatyPerry*cough*
How does "Kesha" & "Katy Perry" control the reproductive development of your childs body?
I don't think 13 is ready enough to have a baby. Some girls haven't even started menstruating at that age!
I agree but that wasn't the question. You asked "What's the perfect age to lose virginity?" NOT "What age are you ready to have a baby?" If that was the question then I would say maybe 26.
They sort of go hand-in-hand. If you're having sex you should be able to live up to the consequences.
I agree. When your able to take care of a child in the event a pregnancy does happen.
THANK YOU for pointing out the obvious thing that people seem to overlook!
If you're having sex, but can't face the consequences, then why are you having sex?