What's wrong with her?

See, there is this woman I really like. She's exactly what I want in a woman. Modest (but still dresses nicely), sweet (at least I thought she was), pretty, funny, and introverted like me. I could scroll through her instagram all day. I even have a collection of photos of her in my home, so that when my phone dies or some other inconvenience happens where I can't look at her insta, I'm still able to look at her. I had been way too nervous to talk to her, until two days ago. I had finally worked up the courage to talk to her, so I went into her DM's and told her, "Hey, you're really gorgeous" and then waited a couple of minutes. When I looked to see if she had responded, I found out she blocked me. Not only did this confuse me, it also upset me and I'm still upset. I have to say, I really do not appreciate her being so rude after I was kind to her. I tried to get into contact with her other ways, and then she said, "Stop trying to contact me" then blocked me again! This really hurt me. What did I do wrong? What have I done to cause this reaction from her? I am a nice guy, and I was nothing but respectful towards her. Like I said, I really do not appreciate her attitude. And to make matters worse, I found out she's talking to some guy, who might I add, doesn't even care about her! Not cool. I even sent her a poem I had written about her, and she still is treating me like some kind of freak, which hurts me even more, because my whole life I've been treated like I'm a freak. Like a loser. I thought she was different, but she's just like the others. After waiting for MONTHS, I finally work up the courage to talk to her, and this is what she does? How dare she do this to me. What the hell is wrong with her?

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  • Vvaas

    "I even have a collection of photos of her in my home, so that when my phone dies or some other inconvenience happens where I can't look at her insta"

    i'm sorry bro but this seems kind of creepy, especially since you said you have never even spoken to her before. have to turn down a notch on the obsession.

    the way you worded this i also don't like because the way you're talking about this is as if you think because you finally contacted her you're entitled to getting a response back no matter what which isn't how it works. if someone's not interested they don't have to respond back to you or do anything, you aren't entitled to a women's attention.

    she is clearly not interested so the best thing you can do is move on, you're disrespecting her boundaries if you continue to try and find other ways to contact her. she told you she doesn't want you to contact her so leave it at that. no means no and you're just going to scare her if you keep that up.

    "Hey, you're really gorgeous"

    if this was your first message to her to be honest i don't think you should have started off immediately with calling her gorgeous (maybe unless it's a dating site or something) something like just saying how are you or hey how's your day going would have been more appropriate as some women find it creepy if a guy immediately starts off with calling them things like beautiful/pretty/etc. if you guys got down to chatting it up then later down the line you could have probably said something like "hey by the way i think you're really pretty" and she would have probably taken it better after getting to know you a bit better.

    also don't take this the wrong way but are you on the spectrum/have autism?

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    • What? What's wrong with having pictures of her in my house? How is that creepy?

      I don't think I'm entitled to her attention.

      But wouldn't she be more at ease if she knows I am definitely NOT a stalker? I don't mean her any harm, nor did I mean to scare her and she should know that. I think if she really got to know me she would know I'm not a bad guy. I can't just give up now.

      But it's a compliment. It's not like I disrespected her.

      No it's okay. The answer is no I am not.

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      • Vvaas

        idk i just think it's kinda creepy to have pictures of someone in your house who you don't know, like i'd get it if you guys were already friends or something or a family member but having a picture of someone you've never talked to before i think it's a little odd haha.

        if you keep contacting her honestly it's just gonna creep her out more and scare her, if you want to show her you're not a stalker then the best thing is to just leave it and stop trying to contact her. if you're not careful you could possibly end up with a restraining order.

        being warm and playful/making jokes i find is the best way with connecting with people, i feel like maybe you were coming off a bit too strong for her with the poem and immediately telling her she's gorgeous when you had the courage to message her. the poem sounded like a nice gesture but she would have probably appreciated it more if you got to know her first before doing things like that as some people can get uncomfortable receiving things like gifts/poems if they don't even know that person.

        if you find another girl you like i'd suggest trying to play it more subtle, maybe just start off with talking about random topics or asking what her interests/hobbies are, like an example could be you could ask her if she likes video games and if she does then you guys can talk about that or any other common interests you have. try to get to know them first and become friends, you have to let them get comfortable around you first.

        i think a good idea is also asking them first if it would be ok for you to do something like writing a poem about them or deciding to get them a gift, because some people might not like that and say they don't want you to do that. you need to make sure to respect peoples boundaries and ensure they're comfortable.

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        • MonsteraDeliciosa

          Hahahahah I just came in and selected and copied the exact same quote as you did! Lol "I even have a collection of photos of her in my home"

          Troll, for sure. Or just a regular creep, fantasizing....

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          • I'm not a troll, or a weirdo fantasizing about anything.

            I don't know what is making everyone think I'm trolling.

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        • No it isn't.

          I think if she knows I wasn't trying to scare her and I'm not really a bad guy, she'll feel better. And you never know, I might have a chance with her. Anything can happen. Like I said, I cannot just give up now.

          Thanks for the advice.

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          • Vvaas

            i mean good luck i guess, i think it's a bad idea tho

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            • I don't see why not.

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  • Meowypowers

    Please let this be a troll

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    • I'm not.

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  • ElysianGod

    Sorry not trying to be rude but I think you scared her by being too forward. Also sending her a poem isn't cute, its borderline creepy.

    If you would have just introduced yourself in a more friendly tone, she might have wanted to interact with you without thinking you are just some random stalker.

    Regardless I think you should leave her alone since you're a "nice" guy as it seems she doesn't want to communicate with you further. Hence why she blocked you.
    She doesn't have to talk to you if she doesn't feel comfortable, that's her right.

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    • What is so creepy about sending her a poem? Also how is that too forward? It's not like I said, "Hey, you're gorgeous we should date".

      I did introduce myself in a friendly tone. "Hey, you're gorgeous". Remember?

      But I'm not doing anything wrong. I just wanted to talk to her. Dude, I don't get what I'm doing wrong, or how simply telling her she's gorgeous is "stalkerish". This is being blown way out of proportion. And she deserves to know that I'm not some creepy stalker dude, don't you think? Why let her think of me as something I'm not? And why leave her thinking she has a crazy stalker? I think she'd be at ease if she knows she doesn't have a weirdo stalker.

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  • oldgoat65

    In the basement of his mom's house, writing a creepy screenplay

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    • I'm not.

      Please come up with something better if you're going to choose to insult me.

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  • hauntedbysandwiches

    Is this the plot of a movie?

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    • No, it's the plot of something that happened to me.

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  • ForeverBM

    Dude your scary. Reading this I am so scared for her. Leave her alone, she has made it very clear she does not want or need you in her life.

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    • No reason to be scared.

      She's fine. I don't wish to harm her.

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  • kikilizzo

    You need help dude.
    You're obviously a stalker and are likely leaving out a lot in your post. No one keeps a collection of photos of someone they've never spoken to in their house, that's freaking sick. For real dude. Literal stalker behaviour..

    I blocked a guy today who keeps creeping on my instagram.
    As a woman you get good at sniffing out the creeps, they always stand out one way or the other from everyone else.
    Good for her that she blocked you. Just the fact alone that you're upset she blocked you when you don't even know her is a huge red flag.
    She owes nothing to you. You're a literal stranger who has printed out photos of her to put in your house.

    Seek professional help ASAP.

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    • What's wrong with having pictures of her in my house? How is that "sick"? You've never liked somebody so much that you just could just stare at them all day?

      I really don't get how this is "stalker behavior". I'm just another average dude.

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  • Curiouskitten444

    This seems TOO "I'm a nice guy/she'll regret this" trope to be real.

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    • I promise you, this is real.

      When did I say she'd regret anything? I was just clarifying that I am a nice guy and not some freak. I don't mean her any harm.

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  • JustJazzin

    My friend, you did nothing wrong. Guys have gone through this for the longest time. Did you come off a little strong? Maybe, but you know what? You took a chance and that’s all you can do. When this girl realizes that the guys she goes for treat her like crap, one day she will look back and realize maybe she should have treated the nicer guys in a NICER way. I don’t know why the prettiest of women go for the biggest assholes on earth, but that’s just how it goes. Sometimes you’ll find a rare gem whose pretty, smart and appears to have the total package, but also gives you the time of day. The unicorns if you will. Maybe you shouldn’t have used the opening line of “you’re gorgeous” - She probably felt you were only interested in the physical; believe me, you’re probably not the first guy who has sent her a message like that. I’ve been in your situation before. I see female friends and friends of friends on instagram all the time and wonder what they’re doing with such jerks, or why they’re single and won’t give me a chance. The worst is when you have your life together, a good career, decent looks and a lot to offer , but see her with a loser that you know you’re better than. Sometimes women are blind, and deaf. They don’t always see the good in a guy and only the physical. Well my friend, looks fade.. that’s why a lot of women who marry and get divorced, find men who are less attractive and have more to offer than just a pretty face and 6 pack abs. Don’t let this rejection linger with you too long. There are plenty of other fish in the sea. If there’s one thing I can suggest, it’s to avoid online sites to find someone. Build the courage to find someone in a similar setting you like (parks, coffee houses, mall, stores, gym) At least you have a common ground you can build on. Wishing you good luck.. and those who disliked my comment can wholeheartedly blow me

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    • Thank you. I'm glad there is someone here who understands.

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  • Sarah_Is_Jimins_Number_1_Fan

    i blocked you because you are creepy

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