What to do if friend is claiming she is getting abused by her father?

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My friend is claiming that her father is abusing her. I'm not sure if she is lying or not or what to do about it. I have told her I could call the cops or tell someone, but she says that her mom is divorcing him and moving out.
I might not feel bad about it because I don't believe it. I need more help of what to do in this situation.

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  • IMissMary
    7 years ago

    Not the OP problem is right.

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  • Azaman
    7 years ago

    Why are people assuming sexual abuse when the post just says abuse? Not all abuse is sexual, I'll leave it to the OP to clarify.

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    • LittleGirlRapedAndSodomised#R7
      7 years ago

      That's a very correct observation Azaman.

      Here's a copy of the OP at current time for reference...

      "What to do if friend is claiming she is getting abused by her father?
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      My friend is claiming that her father is abusing her. I'm not sure if she is lying or not or what to do about it. I have told her I could call the cops or tell someone, but she says that her mom is divorcing him and moving out.
      I might not feel bad about it because I don't believe it. I need more help of what to do in this situation."

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    • LittleLeafff
      7 years ago

      Its not sexual abuse

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  • Ellenna
    7 years ago

    That's a very difficult situation to be in. If you don't believe her you need to stay away from her, because either she's a liar you wouldn't want as a friend, or she's telling the truth, in which case being disbelieved is the last thing she needs. Revealing sexual abuse and not being believed when it's true is incredibly damaging.

    The pending divorce isn't a good reason for the abuse to not be reported because presumably she'll still be having contact with her father after her parents separate. Of course, the abuse may be the reason her mother is leaving her father and I assume taking your friend with her.

    Is she generally a truthful person? Personally I'd trust her and encourage her to talk to her mother if she hasn't already done so. If she doesn't feel able to do that, suggest she call an anonymous sexual abuse hotline and most importantly, in no way betray her trust by telling anyone else what she's told you.

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    • LittleGirlRapedAndSodomised#R7
      7 years ago

      "Revealing sexual abuse and not being believed when it's true is incredibly damaging."

      Incredibly damaging to who? The rapist (supposed male) or the victim (supposed female)?

      I don't expect an answer.

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    • LittleLeafff
      7 years ago

      She isn't sexually abused. Sorry for not saying that in the story. Also, I sort of have trust issues. I have asked her if she was lying, but I am sort of believing it now since this post.

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      • Ellenna
        7 years ago

        How do you know she's lying? And now you've changed your mind since you sent the post?

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        • LittleGirlRapedAndSodomised#R7
          7 years ago

          It was very clear that sex wasn't stated in the OP so why are you backtracking and saying she's a liar?

          How do you know the person in reference is a she?

          The fact is you don't because it wasn't stated at the time which is precisely why I copied and submitted the entire OP above right here...

          http://m.isitnormal.com/story/what-to-do-if-friend-is-claiming-she-is-getting-abused-by-her-father-232255/comment-2329668

          See BITCH, this is why the website creator has his website programmed in such a way... Although my comment and this OP both can be removed, the truth cannot (permalink:)

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        • LittleLeafff
          7 years ago

          I haven't changed my full opinion. I just sort of believe it more because I made this post right after she told me because I was kind of panicking and was confused. I thought she was lying because she said it out of the blue and I have trust issues.

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  • GuardianoftheHumanRace
    7 years ago

    Tell her to take 2nd Amendment actions against her dad.

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  • LittleGirlRapedAndSodomised#R7
    7 years ago

    That's a very nice comment, "she's" not liable for her actions especially when she's a rape victim.

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  • dick555
    7 years ago

    This is a difficult situation that can turn ugly for her as well as you. She has options. If she didn't want to go to the cops or some organization for help, it is her choice and you might just stay out of this. My ex wife was sexually abused by her father. However, it turns out that she had many options and never did anything about stopping the abuse. After learning about the whole situation, it really wasn't sexual abuse. She wanted him and needed him to service her often. She couldn't get enough sex from him. She would not have ever stopped him if it was up to here.

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    • LittleGirlRapedAndSodomised#R7
      7 years ago

      That's a SOMEWHAT correct observation dick555 but without the OP submitting comments anonymously, you can't really rely on the comments in the threads.

      You get a .4 which rounded off mathematically means you don't get jackshit, fuckin sympathizer.

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      • Anonymous Post Author
        7 years ago

        I can write in anon now, sorry I forgot about it.

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  • lundi
    7 years ago

    Then just be a listener. Don't say anything about you not believing her.

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