Ask Your Question today
What type of post on is it normal bugs you the most? If I did not include a major subdivision or annoying posts please let me know in the comments!
| People asking for advice about something painfully obvious. | 9 | |
| Penis size surveys. | 3 | |
| People asking for advice about something useless. | 6 | |
| Obvious trolls. | 14 | |
| People intentionally trying to be offensive. | 12 | |
| Posts about really nasty or fucked up things. | 3 | |
| Polls asking what posts we hate. | 10 |
I'm not gay but I really like having sex with people of the same sex. Is this normal?
Yeah, those are hilarious. That would be under the asking advice about painfully obvious things option FYI.
I wouldn't vote ovbious trolls becuase a lot of times people say its a troll if they never seen it or don't agree. Which doesn't mean it is a troll ita just not in your opinion agreeble or very common. A lady can say "I got raped by a coworker" and someone can say "BS you woulda told the cops and you didn't. Damn troll!" Which is nonesense. Someone can say "dropped phone in toilet while peeing. Can I salvage this" and they can say "this is a troll, what idiot would take thier phone to the bathroom"!
Some people do assume things that are trolls that aren't. That is exaclty why it is 'obvious trolls', not just any old post you think is one. Also on those posts people are suspicious of, people should comment something like 'I am pretty sure this is a troll, but if not, you should.... I think that just in case, people should say that instead of just calling troll and moving on.
All of those annoy me, but you didn't list the very annoying the walls of words with little or no punctuation, going on and on interminably, usually about some trivial issue of interest only to the person posting it or very bored readers. Ditto with such bad spelling and grammar that they're hard to understand, unless the person posting doesn't have english as a first language, in which case I forgive them and commend them for trying.
I'm guilty of making long posts, but I do try to use the proper punctuation, grammar and form paragraphs.
My long posts are usually about cars I have, want, am fixing, or want to fix XD
Yep, also very annoying. I could include that, however, this ppst specifically was intended to refer about the topic, not the grammer. But poor grmamer can make any lost worse!
oh my god this. holy heck. those posts should be classified as cognitohazards by the SCP foundation.
A wall of text with no paragraphs, run-on sentences, bad grammar, disorganized thinking, circular repetition of events, and no clear purpose stated for the post.
The posts where it's the same people asking for advice about the same subject over and over. If they're not going to follow the advice people give here, then why bother asking?
I hate when people ask for relationship advice about being treated poorly, but then get upset when everyone tells them to leave the relationship.
I find it both funny and frustrating when an OP starts snapping at people. Especially when they go on blocking sprees to block all the people who's advice they don't agree with. Like what good is it to only have the users that agree with them/ tell them the wrong things? That's not going to help at all. Those ops aren't making their lives any better. They're probably making it worse.
I think a lot of people ask if something is normal, but they really don't want to know if it's normal. What they're crazy, codependent asses really want is validation.
It is the nature of the site. If you are anonymous, you feel obligated to be a dick and ignore everyone.
They annoy me too: I reckon they're either attention seekers OR they think someone on here will have a magic spell or magic wand for them
Yeah, there ain't no magic spell for them. If anything they're under the spell of that dance of codependency, and fear, their fear of abandonment, and fear of being alone. I just wish they could stop, listen to people, and leave their unhealthy situations. It's like their addicted to the people who treat them badly, like a trauma bond.
It's so annoying, I feel like I can't just ignore them.
Happens all the fucking time! I do wonder soemtimes if the exaggerate how bad their relationship is to be dramatic, but still.
I hate when people do that! Everyone in the comments will agree they need to dump him and she won't listen. Don't ask for advice if you don't want it god dammit!!!
Exactly!
I find it funny when the OP gets upset and snippy at users after hearing advice they don't want to hear( even if it's good advice.)
XD
I also feel bad for them. Imagine a 15 year old scrolling the sex section on Iin? Can't unsee some of that shit. Like the post about a guy getting strapped down and having his semen sucked dry ober snd over by a machine. Imagine a 13 year old seeing that!
Could have been added, but not common enough. They are hilarious tho. I remember one post, and the TITLE was "I don't wanna be 15, is that normal?" Like bruu...
I don't get why people don't read rules before posting. I see underage people and people posting about the three banned topics and I can't help but laugh. Posts like that tend to get nuked pretty quick here.
The internet is hurting kids descion making and also making things like this site too easily avalible. The internet as a whole does more harm than people awknowledge, especially to underaged houligans.
Scat posts (thankfully gone for the last couple of months), walls of text with no structure and paragraphs and the "I'm not gay but..." posts.
I personally would vote for people asking advice about obvious things. Like people will say 'I enjoy cutting' or 'I think about how to kill myself a lot' and then ask if they have a problem. It makes me fell bad, but also annoys me like hell.
The problem is me, not them, but I find the posts about people asking about vanilla, boring issues with dating, girlfriends, or boyfriends to be the most annoying.
The most angering are the posts from people who've harmed animals, wronged someone, or otherwise been assholes.
FUCKING Politics posts & I'll explain.
I have no problem with people who who have a well thought out political opinion & happen to disagree with me or anyone else & I have no problem with constructive debate.
This site doesn't attract those types; it attracts fringies...4 chan rejects, the angry & disenfranchised. Every time politics is posted about on here, it's fucking offensive AF
population control, eugenics, murdering trans people, pseudo science re different and supposedly inferior races, overly liberal people advocating censorship...just the bottom of the barrel, absolutely disgusting topics because people want to know if they're normal, which is fair.
It's never constructive though. It's always fucking awful, mean, nasty & goes absolutely nowhere. The name calling "nazi" "woman hater" "snowflake" "SJW" is constant.
I hate it. Wish they would BAN politics. This is NOT a forum for that.
I can deal with nasty stuff. It's the human condition. I imagine that the people who post it are so inured to it that they don't realise how nasty it is. Like people who smoke heavily often don't realise how strongly - and perhaps offensively - they will smell of cigarettes to someone who doesn't smoke. As the verse goes, 'They know not what they do'. Or at least, they don't know it as well as the rest of us know it.
What really gets me though is people who deliberately try to be offensive. They're out to upset people on purpose and they know exactly what they doing.
i love how good people are at knowing other peoples intentions, must be cool to hear and see what other people are thinking.
You mean with those posts where people just try to be offensive? I like knowing they don't actually think what they say.
But that's just the thing, you can't always "know" people don't think what they say. I've done post that were purely out of true curiosity on touchy subjects with attempts to recoil any potential for offense by adding certain disclaimers and other points of view.... and I'd still get all sorts of people that either think they know what I'm thinking, think I'm purposefully trying to be offensive with no desire to learn something, or think that I am a troll. Albeit this doesn't happen super often with me, but it's quite annoying how many people will jump to the guns and project their own biasses when it does.
It is not always that way. I am sure some poeple do actually think it. But I still suspect that a lot don't. It is hard to tell though.
People looking for suicide help on this site also bugs me a bit.
Going on this site and asking for help is like going to strangers for help: Maybe 80-90% are going to say "Don't do it!" or something like that, and if we actually give a little more damn than that, we'll say something along the lines of "Get some help."
You can imagine how helpful that is, and how much this backfires attention-seekers.
Suicide is a taboo. This site is an unlikely 'safe space' for free speech. It's going to happen.
People who are suicidal often get the urge in waves: it comes and goes. When that happens all they need is to be persuaded out of it for that wave. Later, the idea of killing themselves might seem like madness. But it's very important that they be dissuaded when the urge strikes.
This of course requires that people give them attention - and some disparagingly call it 'attention-seeking'. But you'd reasonably hope that the people you called out to for help would give you the attention you needed if your life were somehow at risk, too. If some rogue state of mind has seized hold of their thoughts and given them an urge that they later look back on and think, 'what was I thinking??', isn't it a sign that they mustn't become isolated inside their own thoughts for too long? They really need to share and this site lets them do that anonymously - so no stigma/overreactions/rejection from the people they know and care about.
That is all fine and good. But it does seem that a lot of people haven't yet seen help for how they feel, but uet they post on here. It might help, but is it worth your time over talking to someone in person who has dealt with this sort of thing and or is a professional?
Why should the professionals be the first 'line of defence' though? They're expensive, hard to organise, hard for people to pluck up the courage to see, hard to see discreetly, and therapy requires a large degree of time and financial commitment that they have to have already decided is worth it before they've even started going...
Maybe they'll see a professional later or maybe they won't, but I haven't known a mentally ill person who was decisive, free, available or financially able enough to keep their mouth shut about their problems until they saw a professional first. A lot of people can't even keep an appointment. The problem with mental healthcare I think is access.
You come to this site, you can say anything about yourself for free, confidentially, anonymously, without needing an appointment, with no commitment required, and without even needing to get our of your chair and face a real person, and you can hope for some - any - response. Even if not helpful, even if not kind. It's a first step for some people in accepting the reality they've got in front of them and trying to do something with it.
Mental healthcare is poorly avalible, but I hope it is improving. But in a case as extreme as the suicidal thoughts people have on this site, I think the priority should be getting help.
What type of 'should' is this, and who has the right to impose on a sick person a responsibility that might be beyond their ability to assume? Not everyone has time, money, freedom or even an understanding of what's good for them.
A therapist will recommend to a suicidal person that they share their problem with people who are not therapists when they feel like they want to go through with the act - 'family and friends' will be the term they use. Whether they're able to do that depends on how supportive their family is and good they are at making and keeping friends - perhaps not very, if they've ended up suicidal. So they turn to the internet. Boom.
We can't sanitize the world from mental suffering by bundling people off to shrinks when their dysfunction gets too loud. Sick people need to be supported by their community too, whether they're seeing therapists or not: their recovery depends on it.
I feel really bad when people post things like that. It happens a lot and I don't think it is something people would troll about.