When a person dies are they really gone?

No one knows. I hope there's a heaven if not only so I could see my dad again, but time will tell.

As for moving on, it's only been 9 months and she was your soul mate. Take all the time you need.

You are still grieving and that takes as long as it takes, but try not to stay stuck in it for the rest of your life: I'm sure she wouldn't want that

I'm sorry for your loss. It will always hurt to have lost someone you loved so deeply, but it will become bearable with time. You're grieving, and it's important to allow yourself to do that.

One of my favourite songs always puts me in mind of someone I lost. Idk, I think it just is a beautifully phrased way of saying most of how i feel about the legacy people leave.

"No one's ever lost forever
When they die they go away
But they will visit you occasionally
Do not be afraid.
No one's ever lost forever,
They are caught inside your heart,
If you garden them and water them
They make you what you are."

I am a widower. I am sorry about your loss. For me, 14 months was significant. At that point my perception of the world changed. It seemed to have more "life" in it. Grieving is a journey. Perhaps you could help other widows/widowers. It makes a big difference.

You two will meet again. We perceive time as being linear, but the reality of it is that time is a much more complex and nebulous concept. It very well may be that we experience things more than once.

You still have so much life to live, if you will let yourself do so. I know you are in pain, but it fades in time and you can still do so many things.
Do you really think that she would want you suffering so, or considering ending your life? She'd want you to carry on and enjoy the rest of your natural life, right?

nope! they go to heaven and still post on iin.

That question is one that haunts many a mortal. while many people can take solace in their beliefs, for some, the doubts and questions never go away, the existential question tears at the conscience, the fear makes for loss of sleep, and sometimes can bring one close to tears.

I'm very sorry for your loss. Losing a loved one is one of the most painful things in life. It's understandable that you continue to feel pain over losing her--death is something that can never be undone. Nonetheless, we must accept reality, she's gone forever and you'll never see her again, don't listen to bucho's_butt, string theory doesn't work that way, that's just a new-age bullshit adaptation.
When you die, you're fucked forever.

Reincarnation

The body is gone.
The soul has migrated.
And the bloody paperwork goes on forever.

Yes.

You'll be with the ones you love.

As much as I'd like to believe otherwise, I think the answer is almost certainly yes. She's gone, except as you say, in your mind (or in other people's minds).

I know they don't come back, but in a sense they are still with you forever because you still have the memories to cherish. It's a tough pill to swallow. Everything feels surreal. In time, you will learn to deal with it and it will pass.

Your girlfriend consisted of two fragments:
1: The atoms she possessed throughout her life(every 7 years, they've completely exchanged themselves with the environment) + the laws of physics to make them interact correctly, so that an access consciousness emerges.
2: Her phenomenal consciousness that gave her qualia. They are said to exist because the pineal gland is an interface to a bridge connecting physical body and soul.

If you're intelligent enough and search online with the information I've given you at hand, you'll soon find knowledge hidden from the general public. Just one last warning: don't activate your 3rd eye.