When people say they're divorced

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...is it normal to wonder what happened and whose fault it (mostly) was?

I speak as someone who has never been married.

Also, divorcees of is it normal (if I may be so nosey), what did actually happen?

If you 'drifted apart', how and why did that happen? If you 'realised you were too different from each other', in what respects were you different, what made you realise this, and why did you prefer to get a divorce over living with the difference?

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Based on 7 votes (6 yes)

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DADNSCAL

2 years ago

It’s never one person’s fault. It’s always both. And right now divorced people who are reading this are thinking, “except in my case”. No. Own it. Take 50% of the responsibility.

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- olderdude-xx
  
  2 years ago
  
  I'm going to agree in general, with the exception of the 50% percentage.
  
  It is always both parties fault to some degree. However, the literature I have read on this subject is that rarely exactly 50% equally. But its also extremely rare that percentages are worse than 70%-30% out of balance.
  
  Thus it's almost always that each party is at least 30% responsible. And yes, I agree with you that people need to own up to that.
  
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  - Anonymous Post Author
    
    2 years ago
    
    That's a very good point.
    
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- Wow3986
  
  2 years ago
  
  A-A-A-Are you fucking serious?
  
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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  2 years ago
  
  Perhaps except in adultery, or battered spouses, or spouses of substance abusers who bankrupt the family with their habits...? Those are the only exceptions I can think of right now.
  
  Other than that, I'm more-or-less inclined to agree with you.
  
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