When should i "come out" about being ocd?
I'm male, in my late 20s, and I was diagnosed with OCD near the beginning of this year. It clarified a lot of things, especially past behaviors that I thought were fully within my control (I know I'm still accountable. I'm not trying to absolve myself of responsibility)
There's a girl I like and we've been on 4 or 5 dates so far. I'm really anxious about bringing up the fact that I have OCD to her because when I'm having a bad episode, it's like I become a different person. My therapist says there are changes in my tone, my cadence, and my thinking gets set in a very unforgiving, black-and-white interpretation of the world. I act as if whatever situation I'm in is an immediate physical threat. I was abused by an older sibling when I was growing up and internalized a lot of it
So what I'm trying to figure out is when would be a good time/way to bring this up to her? The idea of me having a bad episode and she's completely unprepared for it doesn't sound ideal. Trying to describe what happens and what the triggers are prior an episode just feels weird, like I'm trying to paint myself up to be some special-needs pet who needs extra love. Then there's also the timing of everything. Just curious what you guys think
For context, we're both very similar in personality and we're passionate about some of our shared interests. She's incredibly sweet and open-minded and is actually going to school to become a psychologist
Wait until you're officially dating | 2 | |
Tell her now--the sooner you get it out of the way, the better | 6 | |
Don't mention it to her at all | 0 | |
Wait until she sees an episode and then explain what why it happened | 3 | |
Other | 1 | |
Wait until you're officially dating and then wait until it naturally comes up | 1 |