When to reveal sexuality

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I am either asexual or a lesbian. My ex was convinced i'm a lesbian and my mom has suspected it, but I have very big male attractions. I am almost insanely attracted to handy men... Basically like, all manly things... Beards... So yeah.
My mom kind of gave up on my love life now. She said I find faults in every guy and reasons not to like him and apparently priority number 1 is him being a house owner makes me shallow. Oh well. At least I rejected one dude for buying a new car and then revealing it was for me if I slept with him to prove I would be his girlfriend. So at least i'm not a WHORE.
Plus I don't like owing people stuff. Takes away my power and imagine a MAN having power over you. Gross and unthinkable. I make the decisions.
Anyways I was wondering when I should come out as asexual to the next dude I bother going out with. I dont wanna say it right away because he'll be like ooohhh and I may not get a chance to explain theres TOTALLY still gonna be sex down the road. Probably. He'll see. Right now i'm trying to avoid ugly losers in case they are incels, thats such a big thing nowadays, otherwise I can be a little charitable. Especially if he's a house owner.
On being lesbian? I dont know guys. Ive had crushes on some women. Would I be as meh towards sex if I was seeing a woman? Probably not, but that doesn't prove anything... Would it matter if she was a house owner?? Nah. We would be strong independant bitches and we'd buy a house TOGETHER. As a team.
Plus I got pressured to sign up for a dating website that costs cash and you have to sign up for another membershit if you wanna date the opposite gender. Thats how they get you... So i'm aaall about the dudes.

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  • Sanara
    2 years ago

    You don't sound like you're asexual. You say you are attracted to men and there will be sex. What is the asexual part? I think you're bisexual (since you have had crushes on women to). Not liking every man doesn't mean a different sexuality.

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    • Somenormie
      2 years ago

      The bi-o-meter is high.

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    • Cuntsiclestick
      2 years ago

      As a bi person, I approve this message.

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      • Millie_the_evil_saint
        2 years ago

        Everyone's experiences are different. We can't say "she is not asexual", that's gatekeeping. If she says she is asexual, then we should just accept that. No one knows her better than she knows herself.

        Besides, there exists a sexuality that covers an unwillingness to get intimate quick: grey asexuality, or greysexuality, or demisexuality. Again, perfectly normal, part of the LGBTQ community.

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  • Millie_the_evil_saint
    2 years ago

    Tell him you are a Christian and you wait until marriage before you have sex. Wear a promise ring and all that. You'll eventually find a decent man willing to put in the effort, no pun intended.

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  • SkullsNRoses
    2 years ago

    That was a confusing read, your attraction to men seems to be entirely physical and you appear to be repulsed by their personalities. But you then go on to say that you are “meh towards sex” with men, do you find them aesthetically pleasing and nothing else? Because I don’t think that constitutes attraction.

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  • 1WeirdGuy
    2 years ago

    You need a man because you seem way too emotional and not very logical. If you date another girl you'll be 100x more emotional.

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