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Hi all :)
I know it may be a personal question for some but I was wondering what made other people join IIN, or if you stumbled onto is it normal what we're your first thoughts?
I came on this site when I was in a really dark place; contemplating suicide and all that stuff. When I stumbled onto this site, it was like something new. I saw how other people felt the same pain that I did. The loneliness and constant wondering of whether I would die alone or not was a topic that people posted a lot on here. Suicide was also popular. But what was really popular, and encompassed practically all of it was sadness. A lot of the posts that I started giving advice on when I showed up here were towards OPs who felt what I felt. Helping them sort of helped me. I was able to use my pain as a type of teacher and try to prevent others from reaching the point where I was at that stage in my life. Surely enough, I stayed because there was always people who felt like I did, people who were always seeking help and I didn't want to turn them away since I knew exactly how they were feeling, or at least felt like I did know. Although I know that it's selfish of me to say it, but I really joined this site because giving others the advice that I wanted to hear helped me sort out the problems in my life and it also made me feel like I was actually sorting out the problems of someone else.
I feel the same way about helping people being helpful for yourself. Thinking about your own problems applied to someone else can help you be more objective about them, and you can help yourself without even noticing it. I agree with the king, it doesn't sound selfish to me :)
That's not selfish to say at all, in fact being helped by helping others is possibly the most selfless way of making yourself feel better I've heard of :)
Charli.m I appreciate you defending me. I mean I know it wasn't me, but like you saw this guy and saw how he was treating someone and I just appreciate that you had my back. In general I just think it's good that it could have been anyone and you would have had their back. You're a good person, is essentially what I'm trying to say. But I'm sure you know that about yourself. And I'm also sure that you don't really care about what that bully thinks of you or just general what he thinks about.
No worries :) I know you could handle any shit anyone gives you, but...yeah. He overstepped, and then kept right on diggin' himself a big hole...
And yeah, it could have been anyone, but I consider you a friend on here. So that does make it a bit personal :P
Anyways, dinz has had it dealt with. I'm not sure I like the banning straight off with no warning, but I'm sure we'll see Mr JC again before long.
Why are you being mean to Anime? Because he is Hispanic? Racist Nazi queef sucker.
Black people can't be nazis you stupid white piece of trash. Why don't you get educated and stop being a dumb liberal who gets a hard on over PC.
Does that make you feel big?
It proves you are a mental midget and makes you look small.
So I can't criticize people now?
Gotta love PC. What started out as a good thing has now turned into "no criticism" of flaws or beliefs.
You're just sad. And I sincerely mean that. You're insults don't hurt me, they just make me curious as to who you are and what life has done to you to make you this person. I recommend you learn to forgive others. Forgive the people in your life who have done you harm; not because they deserve forgiveness but because you deserve peace.
Fuck this, I'm not even going to respond to these comments anymore. I'm wrong and I'm only making things worse with my shitty attitude right now.
Good night and leave me alone. I'll apologize individually tomorrow.
What made me find it was, I believe, a penis problem. The response was that it was common but I should see someone about it. I ignored that advice completely, and the problem sorted itself out without any help about a year later.
What made me join it was the power trip of being able to tell people if they were normal or not while hiding behind a username. That's the honest answer: judging people was fun.
I stay here because of there are people I like here. Giving advice helps me maintain healthy self-criticism, and sometimes the advice is actually a bit good which is even better. Knowing what is socially acceptable is useful. Knowing what other people think is right and wrong helps me work out whether something is reasonable and I should accept it, or whether it isn't and I should stand up against it.
I stumbled onto this site today. I've read some very funny posts, along with some very serious posts. I enjoyed reading some of this thread, as I can relate to some of the issues discussed.
I don't care for the off-topic insults. If new posters like myself are going to be attacked for simply talking about real issues, then it can be seen by some of us as a waste of time for even posting. I thought it actually would be a waste of time until I saw how many people came in to help each other. There are people who want to have a real discussion, believe it or not. They shouldn't be deprived of that opportunity. As TheGhostOfReason said, it is good to see people stand up and defend someone under attack. If you all hadn't done that, I probably would've left the site altogether.
Well that escalated quickly... Jesus Christ 380, if thou returnest, try using "I" statements - "*I feel* [insert emotion] when you [insert factual action and explanation of why this action makes you feel the negative emotion]. For example: *I feel* angry when you express your care for others because I can't relate to you relating to others.
or
*I feel* left out in this community because my opinions are brash rather than enlightening and helpful.
Here: http://www.austincc.edu/colangelo/1318/istatements.htm
This link may help you.
Now, more to the point, I joined this website because I enjoy being made fun of for silly things. One of my first stories "IIN for my car to fix itself?" initiated some of the funniest comments I have ever seen anywhere on the interwebs. As did "IIN that I walk to a beat?", which just so happened to be approved with a stream of stories that included another's question, "IIN that my dad drives his car to a beat?" which also had funny responses. It was just good timing I suppose. Then I noticed how helpful people were and shit started getting serious. That's when I noticed how mean people could be here and I was all like, "Hey, this is an honest place where I can get a thumbnail picture of how people might perceive me in real life." I am quite preoccupied with various forms of perception, whether they are negative, positive or neutral. Basically, this place entails awesomeness.
I originally joined back in 2006 because I had stumbled across the site by accident. I began reading the stories and the hilarious comments, so I just had to be a part of it. And ever since then (minus approximately a year or so break I took) I've been here ever since.
I just stumbled upon this site when I was bored, just looking up random things... I really love it now! All the friendly, nice people (SOME are!) and just like how simple it was to sign up and all :) I love all of you!
I googled a random question and this popped up...and I started checking it out. I joined a few hours ago. :p
like many of you I was googling something related to penis size and ended up here
Can't remember if it was to post a question about something I was worried about at the time, or to comment. I think I started using the site due to the former and created an account in order to do the latter.
Hmmm, well, I first discovered this site about 2 years ago,
and I thought that it was very interesting, of course, now things have changed.
This site has numbed me to things that most people would find shocking. I wonder if that's a good or bad thing.
At the time I was a young naïve little shit who decided to google if my penis size was normal and IIN popped up as the first result on Google.
I honestly do try to help other people to the best of my abilities though I am naturally an idiot. Been here for almost 7 years and I can say, with all the help I have received from my fellow IIN members at least the honourable thing I can do is try to return the favor.
The truth hurts and the people on this site DON'T want to hear it. Nothing but a bunch of stupid teenaged white kids anyway who are devout followers of liberalism and other crap...smh.
Being racist against whites abd hispanics now? All about black power are ya?
I joined cuz it's fun to laugh at others and the advice given by the trolls and other stupid losers. I don't mind giving my advice cuz I really don't care.
Some of the people on here seem to think they are better than others and are gods gift when they aren't, they're nothing but boring folk.
I did a Google search about my sister-in-law's mind-boggling parenting style.
Then I found this place and, wow, was it ever entertaining! Lots of laughs. :D
And I find it relaxing to focus on the problems of others for a little while, instead of my own. I have a lot of life experience and I might as well share it.
I guess you can't criticize others on this site w/o being called a troll...what a joke.
I joined IIN to see if others share my thoughts on how corrupt society is.
I typed an issue I had into Google and it came up with this website. I have always thought that I needed someone to talk to when I felt like I was thinking crazy. So I joined.
I came here for a specific reason I do not care to identify here, but those who know me on this forum have a fair idea what it was.
This is a great site to be on. My first thoughts (you asked): there are a fair few tossers on here, but in the main everyone is wonderful and it is great to exchange views and opinions, and now and then offer advice.
I donot know why I joined IIN but afterwards it proved so helpfull to me in a lot of ways
Look....I apologize for taking my anger out on the OP and everybody else by verbally assaulting you. It wasn't right at all, but neither was this barrage of character assignations by everybody else to defame my character and paint me as something I'm not.
Trust me, im not an ass or some kind of jerk, but i do not enjoy insults and other snarky comments or the ganging up on me. But seriously though alot of you are proving my point with your holier-than-thou remarks and other comments.
You can't verbally assault people I like, care about and respect, people who add to this community and not expect me to say anything, you just can't, and no one has said anything as bad as you, I quote " fuck off and die" "cunt" and more. Don't try and climb your high horse
1. You still have not raised a legitimate issue with him.
2. No one is ganging up on you. If you can't face the consequences of your actions, then maybe you should think more before making them.
3. No one is acting holier than thou other than you. You're the one spouting bible verses while simultaneously abusing others. Hypocrite much?
True apologies don't have a "but..."
Or go on to make many posts whinging about it. Man up and backdown.
To fuck off and die like you told ghost of reason to. you might consider eating shit first.
Shouldn't you welcome people to this site?! I don't know what point this JC380 is trying to make, but really guys, try not to back him out so much.. He is actually quite right; If he says he's not a troll, you should believe him. And if that's not possible, until then, at least accept him into "the group". He isn't that bad.
The problem was he felt it ok to attack someone else without cause. That's why so many of us got pissed off with him.
Then, instead of apologising, he turned it into a full scale argument.
I try and welcome people there's a few new users who seem cool, I was made to feel welcome so I message a couple of people just to say hi, and welcome, but I'm not going to welcome people who are purely here to make others feel bad and telling people to die, plus he deleted a lot of his comments, and also used. Pm,