Why do alot of people have too many friends on facebook?

I've done the whole add till you drop thing on Facebook, then gone along some months down the line and deleted them all again upon realising that we; a) never talk anyway and b) have nothing in common whatsoever. People change either way as they mature, so the person you were really friendly with back in school might be a complete stranger to you now, and you may only share the 'hey remember me' part, catch up a bit, let one another know you're still alive and kicking, boast a little about your success in life, be a virtual stalker for a bit, then get utterly bored and never say another word. Done the whole trip. Found some of my sworn enemies have turned into really nice people as well as some that I rarely ever spoke to in school have become close friends of mine now. All in all, I think it's a good medium for sorting out age old differences, making a few apologies to some you may have hurt, tell a few some home truths about how they treated you and more often than not extract apologies from them then move on. Facebook, funnily enough has made me feel 100 times better about my school days, which I hated as I was always the outcast, the freak and bullied and teased and I'm way more confident now. Prior to catching up with all my old school mates I saw my memories as something from a Edgar Allan Poe worst nightmare kinda story, now I actually have the mind space to see it all differently and have some darn good memories.

I think people add and add to try and boost their popularity among their peers, maybe it makes them feel more secure. However, most of my Facebook friends cull their list every once in a while, and we all make jokes about who got the axe and just 'thank god it wasn't me' kinda thing, then we forget about it until the next round of culling. I've also made some darn good friends that I've never met and probably never will because they are overseas through Facebook and Myspace and they're keepers.

Anyway, don't sweat it, you only have 9 friends, it's not the end of the world and it's not weird either, you're normal and I think just selective about who you speak to or choose to share your personal info with; nothing wrong with that. I know plenty people like that. You're obviously quite content with what went down in your school days and with whom you now keep as friends.

Some people just start adding literally everyone they know and everyone they ever meet, anywhere. They don't necessarily talk to all these people.

It's fine, my best friend has over 930 friends and i always question how she knows so many people. I have about 330, but this includes people I simply know and not people I'm actually close to. I never pay full attention to more than about 20-25 people in my list excluding family. Some of my friends go adding everyone to look popular because they're sad. I've seen people with excess of 1,000 and some over 3,000 friends and it's ridiculous.

Nothing to worry about, perfectly normal

It will add up, trust me! I have over 600 Facebook friends now... people I went to school with (elementary, junior high, senoir high, college, etc), work friends, people I randomly met, etc. They all add up. I've also had several jobs and have moved around the country. Good luck :)