Why do men pay good money to wrestle women?

Most people say it is a fetish, even though it doesn't involve sex. Three times I have paid hundreds of dollars to engage in session wrestling, where a man contacts a woman who sells her ability to wrestle men who enjoy physical contact or domination in body to body contact. The first time I chose a lady who was well versed in yoga. She was 6-2, 140, and very slippery. It was a gentle session, where we tried different holds to see if we could escape. Finally, she put me in a headlock and pinned me. It was fun but at no time did I feel overmatched. I actually taught her some moves and she later told me it helped her attract more clients. A few years later I found a lady who was a pro mma competitor and paid her $300 to wrestle and act out role plays. She absolutely destroyed me. She took me down 10 times and was on my back instantly. I could do nothing. If we had wrestled in college or high school she would have beaten me 15-0. I ended up sweating so hard she made put on a shirt. I was dominated but exhilarated. Not an ounce of sexual satisfaction. Her roommate then asked if I wanted to do a differet kind of wrestling where we started on our knees. She was a pro of 30 years and she knew all the tricks. At one point she got on top, cradled my head in her breasts and trapped my arms. I couldn't breathe but I couldn't tap. I thought I was going to pass out but she finally realized she had cut off my air and let me go. Again, no sex involved but I probably jerked off using the memory for years. The idea that a normal-sized woman could have killed me was erotic to me. I later told her my feelings and she was proud to fulfill my fantasy. She was the sweetest lady. She didn't even look strong. But boy, she could wrestle. I'm pretty sure she could kill me with her breast smother but I'd pay to do it again. It's amazing when a fairly normal looking woman can whup a guy who used to wrestle in junior college. I probably only tried my hardest against the mma lady and found out that yes, a well/trained woman can outwrestle a man. Fetish? I suppose it is. But a lot of men do it.