Why do people date the opposite gender if they've

Sexual abuse doesn't make someone gay.

This is why.

Cuz sexual abuse doesnt make people gay?

Because sexuality is not a choice. Also pretty sure some people who are abused become extremely promiscuous as result. So the polar opposite of what you think.

Being abused by someone of the opposite gender cannot remove your physical attraction to them. So, unless you're gay/bi/whatever your options are rather limited. People respond to trauma in their own way, just because one person can never have another relationship again doesn't mean another will feel the same way.

An ex of mine was abused. Despite being friends for years before we became a thing, comfort/confidence for physical things took awhile. We worked through it just fine, tho. Give her all the space she needs, but also be there for whatever comfort she may need. And allow her to make all the moves.

It sounds like you'd like people to react to childhood events in a simple, logical, "if this happened, then this always happens" way.

But that's just not how people work.

If someone is bullied as a child, they may cope with that by becoming submissive and constantly trying to be invisible as an adult. Or they might be filled with an inner rage they don't even acknowledge but which surfaces now and then in the form of extreme violence. Or they might decide they're worthless and engage in self-destructive habits. Or they might turn into controlling assholes who bully those less powerful than them as an adult. Or they might come to terms with how they were treated as a child and devote their lives to trying to help kids going through what they did.

People are complicated. A lot of us never really figure out exactly why we do the things we do, and many people spend their whole lives lying to themselves about their true motivations. In the context of sexuality, most of us really have no idea why we find some people, traits and activities arousing and others disgusting.

Few of us respond to other people and events in a completely random, chaotic way, so there's almost always some sort of logical cause and effect at work. It's pretty clear that sometimes our genes play a big role in that. But people don't spend years in therapy trying to identify and sort out the effects of childhood trauma just because they're the victim of an evil plot by the therapy industry to rip them off.

Humanity wouldn't have survived if the vast majority of people weren't hetero...Despite whatever trauma may have been inflicted by the oppote sex.

Tbf, what you're saying makes perfect sense. Ironically nature goes the opposite of that in a lot of cases. I know that people who were diddled as kids as way more likely to grow up to diddle kids.

I think sexual orientation is something you're just born with and does not change. And at some point in life most people want to find a romantic partner and have sex, its natural. People who experience something traumatic may get a little over it after a while (maybe not completely but more or less) and they may not see "the abuser" in the new person they met.

That's not how any of that works

Please learn English

Human nature is a hard thing to understand.