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Why do men who are not attractive but has managed to get themselves an attractive girlfriend, cheat on her with women who are unattractive or below average?
Are they in reality more attracted to their own leauge but ashamed to admit it?
I noticed unnatractive butterball chicks with good looking guys do the exact same shit too. I used to wonder why people do this. Then one of my coworkers explained to me that some ugly people are desperate, horny, and more than willing to be a side piece/do just about anything in bed even if they hate it just so they can get some action. My other coworkers agreed with her.
This is what I was going to say, unfortunate looking people are more likely to have low self-esteem hence they are more willing to be a side piece.
I think OP is also correct in that people are subconsciously drawn to their own league of people, in this case ugly people with low self esteem and weak morals. Or as I like to put it, “Trash attracts trash”.
For the record, both does it.
And for ugly men, even for regular men, compare to women, men don't get much attention. At some point women hate attention because they always get it. Men who don't get attention, when suddenly gets it, they fall for it.
Another reason is, beauty doesn't defines a relationship. Attitude is. Women with beauty, doesn't need to work on their attitude because always their beauty gets the attention they need. Unattractive women, always have to work with their attitude. A man who is tired with a beautiful girl who has a bad a attitude, always get impress by a good attitude. Because they already made a mistake by going beauty first.
Same goes with girls.
They made a mistake with a handsome man with bad attitude.
Or they suddenly find another one who's giving so much attention on you.
First girl who cheated on me, her excuse was, he appreciates me. I asked, haven't I . She said, you have but he said I am pretty. I was young and I know it's lame but I wrote poems for her beauty. She had blue eyes which I loved the most. And still she fall for a matured guy who said twice she is pretty. She forgot my hundreds words of poems I wrote for her every month. It's the falling for new attention for those who don't get much attention. She never had it with her nerdy look.
It’s because some people need sex AND variety more than others. People who are extremely prone to boredom.
It’s the need for every girl to look different, even if she isn’t as hot as the last, in order to increase the stimulation. Just like people combining multiple drugs together.
I don’t get it either. The prime example that comes to mind is Prince Charles who had Diana and still was cheating with that hag Camilla.
Part of it is that surface beauty is skin deep. Mental attraction takes time to build. Compansion/emotional caring and attraction that time to build as well.
People are seeking what they need; which is compassion, emotional caring, and mental compatibility... Just because someone is physically attractive does not mean that they have or can develop the other things. Unattractive people often are good at those other things.
But, that by itself does not explain the cheating... People cheat either because they are innately dishonest, have huge unfilled compassion, emotional, and mental companionship (and their partner is not providing it), or sometimes get caught up in a situation they have not thought through and end up having sex initially in the moment and regret it the next day.
Intentionally dishonest cannot be fixed, and in my opinion are not worth dealing with. Being caught up in a situation they had not thought through is the easiest to fix and repair. The lack of adequate compassion, emotional care, and mental takes work by both parties - and its 50/50 on if it can be fixed and the partners can continue with a positive future.
I think its the monkey brain in us that makes us desire other people too. It doesnt matter if shes less hot than the girl youre with. Its weird.