Why do you humans do things like marriage, family, and get mates?

If you're a human you probably do things like get a mate or at least try to get one, get into marriage and start a family.

WHYYYYY THO?????

Why do you do that? Its sooooo WEEEIIIRRDDDD. Its such a foreign concept to me despite being around humans all my life. Almost every human does at least one of these things and it freaks me out that its so "common" that I'm expected to do the same.

I can understand from a biological aspect. Humans very much are instinctual creatures with instincts wanting reproduction despite pretending not to be so. I just don't see it the way humans see it tho.

I honestly got so many questions I dont even know where to begin so for now, Im asking the one above.

Small bit about me so you don't assume I'm also a type of "need to breed folk" :
-I never want a relationship
-I never want to have sex
-I never want kids
-I never want to start any kind of family
-Crotch spawn doesnt give me purpose, I do and I choose how I give myself purpose.

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  • ThatOneGuyYouNeverWantToMeet

    "-I never want a relationship
    -I never want to have sex
    -I never want kids
    -I never want to start any kind of family
    -Crotch spawn doesnt give me purpose, I do and I choose how I give myself purpose."

    Same.

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  • litelander8

    Do other earth residing animals not do the same…? I like the reproduction process of octopus. It just seems right.

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    • IDontUnderstandHelp

      I think all relations between creature is weird, but I could give less of a care. the only reason why Im harking bout humans is because they govern me, hurt me and try to make me do shit I hate. The day the octopus starts taking over, i'll bitch about them too.

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  • kikilizzo

    Because we are a social species, and even the biggest loners tend to desire to feel loved and have a person to share their life with.

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    • taebby22

      I actually don't feel the need to share my life with anyone. It's not that I hate everyone or anything, it's just that I don't feel the same connection to people as others do. Perhaps OP feels the same judging by their post. I recognize it's not exactly 'normal' since it's more instinctual to WANT to be social and mingle with others.

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    • heathercampbell_73737

      Yes I totally agree with it

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    • IDontUnderstandHelp

      I can understand from like a evolutionary perspective why. But other then genetics and biological stuff its very hard to understand why from a personal level. Its so frustrating to me because humans like to claim "free will" and everything they do is their choice but yet EVERYTHING they do is very instinctual.
      I could care less but they put their instinctual stuff into everything and from someone whos never had feelings like wanting to be loved, wanting to not be lonely, wanting to socialize, wanting a family, etc. It feels very weird and annoying to try to be shoved into such a foreign mold that no one else seems to have a problem with.

      Did you personally decide that being social, wanting to be loved and share life with a human was right for you or does it kinda just happen on its own?

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  • SkullsNRoses

    Loneliness is a driving factor, life is scary and most people do not want to live it alone.

    Also have you looked up “void punk”? It’s for people who feel othered to the point they don’t feel human, you might find it interesting.

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    • IDontUnderstandHelp

      interesting, first time i ever hear the term "void punk"

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  • IDontUnderstandHelp

    I can't answer for all "misanthropic" posts but as for mine, its largely bc of the awkwardness and sourness I receive IRL for dare asking such things that according to everyone should be "common sense" and how dare I not participate in such things. Plus, this is an online forum where uncommon stuff is literally expected, it be pretty weird if I asked a random coworker at my job and asked, "hey y u breed?"

    Using the terms "you humans" is a very clear way of OTHERING other humans from myself to quickly and clearly signify to the reader that a lot of the stuff humans do is very alien to me. The importance of this is set the standard for my questions so that the reader is less likely to misinterpret things since they don't know my background. I'm not using this title to be condescending.

    A title like "Why do you get married?" will have a different expectation and response as opposed to the title, "Why do you humans get married?"

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  • LloydAsher

    It's a societal adaptation from an evolutionary tactic.

    Males dont suffer any repercussions physically for having children. Women do, so they are naturally more selective than men. Technically it's in the males best intrest to foster a single family as it maximizes his resources to his kids.

    It's a quantity, quality type argument for having a family or not. Of course if you were rich enough the quantity drawbacks were mitigated. As for normal blokes having half your kids starve because dad wasnt around isnt good for spreading your genes around.

    Society adapted around that question thus it's the social normal to do so and the ethical normal.

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  • heathercampbell_73737

    Actually when I was younger I thought the same, like why do humans want to have a family, kids and stuff, I can't even imagine having a child , take care of him or her and and just waste my time doing the same "basic" thing that other people do, for what? I rather travel self-improve myself and whatever I want to do than do all of that "parent" thing and plus about marriage - I still have no idea how people find each other and stay interested in each other for so long. But right now (I don't have a husband and kids) I understood it's just all about hormones, physiology and the influence of society. I know it works not for all people but most of them eventually want to have a family and children to take care of and not to be lonely whole life.

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  • normal-rebellious

    Weird is just weird by comparison, from how uncommon it is, if everyone is doing it it's no longer weird. Still, I think marriage is normal for a man with a reputation who wants a wife so he can later on make his bitch stay at home while he's at home drinking a glass of wine, it's no different to two dogs, one male, the other female, always together as the male dog makes babies with the female dog, that's why most married couples want to make babies, although some marry to avoid being lonely.

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  • NoRestForTheWicked

    Simple answer: because we want all those things you say you don't want. And we are not ashamed to admit that we want it.

    More deep answer that might also apply to you: it would be nice to have someone to share experiences with. Someone who will support you as you pursue your purpose. Make you feel less alone. Someone you can turn to when you wonder if you are normal and all you need is a hug and a reassuring smile. That's normal. You can want that even without wanting to mate and marry. Sure you can rely on friends for that. And that is how a good marriage feels: like a supportive friendship and you also fuck sometimes. Best of both worlds.

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  • 1WeirdGuy

    The reason most people want kids is because ppl like you dont pass on their genetics. You'd be surprised how much behavior is affected by genetics.

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