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Why such devilish feeling called embarassment exists in our system? It's pretty much one of the most evil thing that mankind can feel as embarassment brings their self-esteem down fast like descending on an elevator.
All emotions we have exist for a purpose.
Embarrassment is a good thing to be able to feel because it lets you know when you've made a mistake so that you'll be less inclined to do it again. You have to learn to control your mind if you feel such emotions in an excess though, like that everything you do is embarrassing.
It's easier said than done.
Because you need to be aware when you do things things that are embarassing because generally they are bad things that shouldn't be done.
its an emotion meant to make you behave in a way that other people will like you. because you're more likely to survive if you're in a group.
A healthy amount of embrassment is necessary, and beneficial as it helps you to recognize and avoid behaviours which could harm you or others. Feeling it in excess or over very minor things or in the wrong situations can be a problem though and have an adverse effect though.
I struggled with social anxiety for most of my adolescence and adult life and I would easily become embarassed or flustered over things that aren't really that big of a deal, so I understand where you're coming from. You should try to take a step back when you feel that way and consider wether you actually have anything to be embarassed about or if you might just be overthinking it.
You need to know that barely anybody give a fuck about your failures and when you mess up, unless your failures is saving a child from drowning etc, but even then people will forget it eventually. They'll only care about it for a little bit before forgetting it.
You'll feel your embarrassment naturally not as overpowering after you integrate this thought process into your brain.
Works for me.
Agreed. We are the stars of our own movies (lives), so naturally we worry about our own embarrassments long after others have likely forgotten about them, since they're more worried about their own. Other people's embarrassments typically pale in comparison to your own since your own have a bigger effect on you, save for the intense secondhand embarrassment of someone who has done something truly shameful/cringeworthy (as in overstepping boundaries, not just saying something kind of stupid).
It’s a defense mechanism. It’s a way for your mind to put the brakes on your behavior when you get close to overstepping the norms that you’ve been taught. Such as never appearing naked in public. If you’re embarrassed by things you want to do, you can desensitize yourself by breaking in little by little.
It doesn’t, just don’t feel it. Make the decision to stop feeling anything negative
Itll turn you into a sociopath then.
Be ashamed of shit you should be ashamed for..
Most things everyday people do are not things you should be ashamed of. Unless you go around murdering people, you’ve probably no need to feel shame or embarrassment
Feel bad about eating 3000 calories of crap if you arent a body builder.
Feel bad about being a whore (man or woman)
Feel bad about cheating.
There are some things that people do that they should feel bad about. Removing shame removes a reason to avoid behaviours.