Why is it hard to get laid & get a relationship in college
ok I'm 20 years old and I'm a freshman in college. I go to college in florida, but i find it really hard to get laid. I lost my virginity my first week of college, but after that i can't believe how hard it is for me to even just get in a relationship. i'll explain why: I already know my disadvantages of why i can't get laid but their other aspects that pisses me off about how i just can't talk to girls and keep them interested in me. Basically I have low self esteem, I can be funny at times, I do get really nervous around girls i like, and that i would like to get intimate with, but i just seem to get labeled as the nice guy, and i keep getting stuck in the friend zone. I'm not gonna lie, but my perception of how some of my close friends say to me and its like a broken record: your a good looking guy, I sometimes don't like what i see in the mirror. But even the chick who took my v card even said to me I'm a good looking kid, what pisses me off is, i just can hold their attraction and also its boca! I've lived in boca all my life, and one thing i can tell you is most girls that consider by society are "stuck up"! I just don't know how to get a girlfriend, and how to hold their interest. I feel as if my confidence can't be elevated! It starts to deteriorate at my self esteem! It just aggravates me - i mean yeah i know the expression girls will come to you, but they ain't gonna knock your door down trying to get with you. You have to put in the effort to get them, but how do you get them? I feel like I'm starting to be classified in the catagory as the type of guy who is a loner! can't get girls, low confidence, shy etc. even guys had told me you should be popular, you have everything going for you, man if they only know what goes on in my head that i can't explain, its depressing at times. But if anybody can give it a stab and try to give me some help on trying to get a girl the right way - much is appreciated! Thanks for your help!