Why is it so hard to be alone?

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After fourteen years suffering in a bad marriage I have come to the point where I just want to be left alone. I spend every other weekend with my two sons and that is all the social life I need and want. I'll date every so often. This is usually the result of one of my siblings fixing me up with someone. I go to hookers for sex most of time that I do desire sex with a woman. Other times I simply beat one off. Keeps my anxiety down. But I find the almost daily intrusion of well-meaning people very annoying. I am at the point where I want to scream at people: I JUST WANT TO BE ALONE! Is it normal to want to be a loner?

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    Completely and totally nothing wrong with it. Society has a stigma on it being "strange" but it isn't at all.

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  • chained_rage
    9 years ago

    LonerwithaBoner can totally be your new username. Own that. Get there.

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  • ArayaLioness
    9 years ago

    Many people are loners. And I think it's understandable from coming out of a bad marriage.

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  • Holzman_67
    9 years ago

    Don't scream but try telling them that, if you haven't already.

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  • zzyzx
    9 years ago

    Technically it's not normal, despite it being an acceptable personal choice. Although, anyone who cares about you will want a healthier life for you, which includes fulfilling intimate connections with others. Try to have some patience with them, they obviously love you and are all that you have now.

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    • [Old Memory]
      9 years ago

      He spent 14 yrs suffering in a terrible marriage, that would put most off dating. He has sons, the basic reason men get married anyway. And he can see them and spend time with them.

      I'd say he's ahead of the game, provided his sons are healthy and functional and not mentally or developmentally disabled.

      Spending time with hookers isn't a terrible thing either, I don't and would never do it myself. But it's not bad, your basically cutting through all the bullshit and getting right to the point of the whole exchange anyway.

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    Between my second wife and meeting my third, it was 19 years of being alone. I didn't even date because I wasn't interesting in just getting laid. If I couldn't be with the right sort of person, then nobody was better than just anybody.
    Well, I met this great gal and we set off to have experiences and adventures and now life is GRAND.
    I see all the guys out here my age, sailing their boats around alone, and I know that I am the luckiest guy in the Eastern Caribbean.
    Don't give up; the right person could be headed your way.

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  • theseeker
    9 years ago

    Yeah, there's nothing wrong with it. I've known people who don't want relationships. They would rather be alone usually because of being in a shitty relationship previously, much like you. It's nice because you're not really "tied up" to anyone. You can enjoy your freedom more. Although, I think you will find being alone all the time gets old after awhile.

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