Why women wear tight fitting clothes?

hahahaha I can just tell by you mannerism in wich you wright...

You know how many times I've look in the mirror after getting dressed and thought "How will I look to a man?" I'll give you a hint: it's the same as the number of first dates with men I've been on, because that's the only time I've ever done it.

How can I put this any clearer? MY BODY IS NOT FOR YOU. It is mine. I dress it the way I like, within certain bounds of social acceptability and legality. By dressing in a socially acceptable way, I've done my part. Your part is to act in a socially acceptable way. That means not openly staring at people. If you can keep yourself from staring at people with missing limbs, obvious tremors, or burn scars covering their faces, you can keep from staring at women's bodies. If you can't, then you're kind of an asshole, and people will tell you to stop it.

OswaldCobblepot is a man, by the way.

Rereading my last reply, I realised that I made it sound like I don't think that women ever dress provocatively to get male attention. This is not the case. I know for a fact that women dress to get male attention, sometimes, but I don't think it's appropriate to assume that's the case. Let's say you're on a train, and you see a woman sitting nearby, wearing an outfit that you would consider provocative. Before you assume that she's looking for your attention, consider these points:

1) Different people have different ideas of what "provocative" and "tight" mean.
You don't know what this woman's standards regarding appropriate dress are, and she doesn't know what yours are. Ask yourself why you believe that her outfit is provocative. Is it because it's well outside the norm of what a woman would wear from day to day, or is it because of the particulars of what personally turns you on? Some clothing is obviously provocative and fetishistic: if she's wearing a catsuit, sure, she's definitely looking for attention from SOMEONE (we'll come back to that later). If her skirt is just a bit short by your standards, though, it's very possible that she doesn't even know it might be considered provocative. If she looks like she's a stripper, maybe she IS a stripper on the way to work (it is still kind of rude to stare at strippers when they're not working). If she's all made up, wearing a tight dress, and looks like she's going on a date, maybe she IS going on a date. And that brings us to…

2) Looking for attention ≠ looking for YOUR attention.
Let's say she's dressed to kill: tight dress, high heels, push up bra, red lipstick… you get the idea. Sure, there's a pretty strong possibility that she's dressed that way because she wants to turn somebody on. Don't assume that person is you. If she's on her way to see her boyfriend (or girlfriend, or fuck buddy, or whoever), chances are, she's not looking for attention on the subway. Fortunately, she's probably sending signals that will help tell you whether this is the case.

3) People communicate through body language.
Is she facing away from you? Is she reading a book? Is she playing with her phone? Is she staring out the window with her arms crossed? Leave her alone. She's not looking for attention from you. These are all things that can be evaluated at a glance. If she makes eye contact and smiles, or if she greets you, she MIGHT be looking for attention from you. If you stare at her and she turns away, or if you talk to her and she replies in single syllables, or if she outright tells you to leave her alone, back off. Sometimes people send the wrong signals by mistake.

4) Depending on what you mean by "normal average day clothes", that might not really be commercially available for women.
Women's clothes are way more complicated and crazy than men's clothes. This isn't just something that happens if you want really fashionable clothes, either, it's just how women's clothing stores are, for some reason. Remember in like the early to mid 2000s, when lots of women were wearing jeans that showed their butt cracks (and often the least flattering part of the stomach, just below the belly button)? I do. I hated that trend, but I took part in it anyway, because I needed new jeans, and was next to impossible to get a pair that didn't at least threaten to expose some crack. It was awful. You know how a lot of women wear shirts made of really thin material these days? That's because if you shop in the women's section, almost all of the materials are super thin now. If you care at all about wearing clothes that fit properly, and you don't have the time and money to find clothes that fit your specifications, you end up unwillingly participating in shit like this. The same goes for short shorts, push up bras (it's so hard to find a bra in my size that's not a push up bra, which is weird because my cup size is above average), low cut shirts, and fitted t shirts.

5) There are reasons other than male attention to wear more exposing clothes.
For example, I'm 5'3. If I wear a skirt or dress that goes below the knee (unless it's floor length, which is usually impractical), or even comes too close to knee length, my legs look awful and stumpy. Maybe nobody else notices, I don't know, but it makes me feel shitty. Another example: I'm getting married soon, and my wedding dress is strapless (almost all wedding dresses are strapless these days. I can't explain it). I don't want tan lines on my wedding day, so I bought a strapless bikini to wear to the beach. Yet another example: if I wear a shirt that's loose and not fitted to my figure, it makes my waist look much bigger than it is, because I have an hourglass body type. Shirts are either tight in the bust or loose in the waist. Those are my choices.

6) Is what's gotten your attention about her actually what she's wearing, or is it something about her body?
I'd say my nipples are visibly hard about 60% of the time. It's involuntary. It's not because I'm aroused. It's not even because I'm cold, usually. I don't know. Yes, I have bras with padding, but they don't always completely hide it. Also, as a somewhat busty woman (not super busty, but above average for my frame), I can't really make my body look asexual. My breasts are there.

Finally, don't give me this "It's human nature for men to stare, so we can't help it" bullshit. You are perfectly capable of not staring. It's human nature to stare at people who are visibly deformed, too, but it's still fucking rude. Sure, you might slip up sometimes. If you do, apologise. It's not that hard.

No problem. Thanks for listening!

Man you spent a long time writing this huh?

If you want examples that this happens regularly just look at this site.
http://www.ihollaback.org/

While I'm glad you've never experienced such a thing it has happened to me and every female friend I know. The first time a group of friends and I got honked at was in the 5th grade (and we looked like we were in the 5th grade, we were not ~*~sexy~*~).

1. Why are you using "masterbate to" in quotes like she was the one who misspelled that? You misspelled that. Many, many times. It's "masturbate", you simp.

2. How the fuck do YOU know whether or not another person has honked, or started at, or "masterbated to" her in public? Are you psychic? Are you fucking clairvoyant, able to see events from far away? No? Then shut your word hole. Or, more accurately in this context, still your key-jabbers.

3. Hey, maybe the hot guy you're ogling doesn't want to be looked at. Maybe you're a hideous hambeast and your disgusting drooling is making that guy uncomfortable. How would you feel if a disgusting fat neckbeard wearing an undersized t-shirt wouldn't stop ogling you? or came over and wanted to grope on you? I bet you wouldn't take it as a fucking compliment.

4. You're a fucking thread necromancer. Get the shit out of here.

It sounds like some of my post may have been unclear, so I'll try to clarify some things.

Yes, I've had men publicly masturbate while staring at me. It's not a regular occurrence, and I didn't mean to imply that it was, but it's not something that should happen at all. It's happened twice in my life. No, I'm not saying they masturbated with their minds. I'm talking about people actually reaching into their pants. No, that isn't normal behaviour, but my point in bringing it up was to say that being stared at for a length of time significant enough to be uncomfortable is a more difficult experience when you're not sure if it might escalate. No, not all guys are pigs. Most men don't do that. I realise that. But it can be very difficult to report that kind of behaviour when I live in a culture where I don't know if I'm going to be blamed for it. I'm not accusing all men of that behaviour, I'm saying that we need to change our culture into one where when the occasional sicko does something like that, women can talk about it without being accused of bragging about their own attractiveness, causing the incident by dressing the wrong way, or making the whole thing up.

Everything I mentioned has happened over the course of years, not in rapid succession. But even a few experiences like that can go a long way in making somebody feel unsafe or uncomfortable. I never said "on a common basis". I have gotten a lot of honks and catcalls from passing cars (that used to happen on almost every walk I went on), but I think that might be particularly common in the city I live in. They don't do it so much now that I have my wheelchair, and I don't miss it.

I want to clarify the type of "tight clothes" I'm talking about, because I think that's one of the least clear things in this whole conversation. I'm not talking about wearing latex or spandex. The clothes I usually wear are more along the lines of fitted t-shirts, dresses with fitted (but not skin tight) tops, and jeans that fit properly. When I say "tight" in this case, I mean "not baggy".

Yes, my experiences have been different from yours. That's ok. It doesn't mean that I'm lying. There are a lot of reasons that our experiences may be different. We probably live in different places, and we may live in different cultures. Since you don't think that cars honking and slowing down is very common, I think we must live in very different areas, because where I live, it's absurdly common. I've talked to friends and family who've had similar experiences.

Also, you seem to be under the impression that I think a lot of my appearance. It was a little strange (and painful) to read, actually, because I don't. In fact, my body image is poor to the point of being crippling. I've been bulimic for quite a few years, and while I don't think poor body image necessarily caused my eating disorder, it's a big part of it for me. I'm struggling with recovery. If you don't believe me about that, there are several users here who can confirm it, including OswaldCobblepot, who's my husband, a few IINers who I know in real life, and one IINer who's quite well respected, but who I won't name here without permission. My bulimia is actually part of why it's important to me to wear clothes and makeup that I find flattering: it allows me to have some control over my body and appearance in a way that's not destructive.

Really, my point in posting about this would be null if I thought I were some sort of magical siren who makes men lose control. I'm not the only one who's had experiences like this, and I don't think that attractiveness necessarily has much to do with it. Basically my whole point is that sexual harassment isn't some sort of involuntary impulse that men have when they see women, that not harassing people isn't hard, and that harassment is common enough that staring, especially very obvious staring, makes some people feel unsafe.

Staring doesn't make you a pig or a bad person, but if somebody mentions that they feel uncomfortable with the way you or someone else stares at them, it seems to me like it's very basic respect and empathy to try to make that person feel safer, rather than telling them it's their fault. I don't want people to pity me, I'm not asking anybody to pretend their sexuality doesn't exist, and I'm certainly not bragging about my questionable looks. I brought up my experiences because some people honestly don't know that this sort of thing happens (including you, by the sound of it), and knowing about different people's different experiences can help people understand each other. All I'm asking for is a little consideration, a little respect, and a little empathy.

Then what is the true stat?Tell me....

not if you're gay....

Yes that in my opinion it is one of the reason also.