Wife is annoying

One thing about my wife that irritates me is she complains about things that happened in the past, especially when she complains about things that were clearly her fault. One example is a story she told me about being nearly r****ed by a guy on tinder (I'm not sure if I can say the word here). Woman, you made the decision to meet up with a guy you didn't know. And then when she complains about her mother's treatment of her. Okay, yeah, your mom was a bitch blah blah blah. What do you expect me to do about it? You're not with her anymore. Move on. Is she under the impression that I'm some kind of time traveler that can travel back in time and fix all of her stupid problems? And she is always crying. The crying is really annoying. She is always crying about my behavior towards her, but I'm really just giving her tough love because even if she is the most insufferable woman I have ever met, I still do love her. It's similar to raising a child. You give them tough love, but not out of mean-spiritedness. But because you love them. I do everything and she dare say I treat her bad? Wtf? That leads me to my next point. She is ungrateful and unappreciative. I do everything, yet she still complains and acts like I'm the worst husband ever. I get her gifts, I work my ass off for this family, I make sure shit is taken care of, and she still wants to whine? What is wrong with her? Maybe she should go learn something instead of whining and acting like I'm the worst husband ever. Oh, and another thing, she says how I don't spend enough time with her. Are you kidding me? I have a job. I don't have the time to spend time with her. Would she rather us get evicted? I don't think she would. And, based off her behavior, I don't believe she deserves my time. Another thing that never fails to infuriate me is when she claims I'm "over-reacting". We went to a gathering not too long ago, and I caught her and another guy getting just a little bit too close to each-other. When I confronted them about this, she said I was "over-reacting". Whatever.🙄 I know what I saw. If you have enough balls to go messing with some other guy, at least have the balls to admit it, and don't make me doubt what I saw with my own two eyes. And I despise when she plays victim. Quit acting like a saint and just fucking own up to it. It's not hard. On top of all this, she always brings up things I said/did to her in the past whenever we argue. Like the time I put my hands on her. That was only one time, which I apologized to her already. We all do things when we're mad. Though, to be fair, she deserved it. I told her to stop getting me riled up and she did it anyways. What did she anticipate? I did also tell her she should just go khs. We all say things we don't mean when we're mad, and again, I already apologized to her for it. What does she want me to do? Get on my knees and beg her for forgiveness?

Tl;dr my wife is ungrateful, unappreciative, annoying, and then acts like I'm the problem in this relationship.

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  • ospry

    I know of biohazardous waste disposal sites that are less toxic than you

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    • Oh, really?😂

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  • Whatintarnation

    This might be a stupid question but what is khs? Sounds like you two need to go to a marriage counselor and try to work through your problems peacefully. Best of luck.

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    • Khs is short for kill herself.

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  • Vvaas

    this is either a troll or a sociopath if ur annoyed by your wife so much then why don't you just break up with her then 🤨

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    • Tinybird

      I smell troll too. This post reads too suspiciously like someone badly pretending to be like something from r/niceguys. Sounds like a woman wrote it.

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  • 1WeirdGuy

    Yeah man, marriage is a beautiful thing. Theres alot of good that comes with it. Theres love and happyness. Theres also hatred and anger and madness in it.

    I just recommend you not to ever put your hands on her again even if shes being insufferable. Just leave the house if she wont stop. Because once you put your hands on your wife like that usually you'll do it again and its not a good habit.

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  • KholatKhult

    That’s too bad
    My wife is hot and smarter than me and said I smell good
    *kickflips* guitar riffs*

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  • kelili

    Maybe you should tell her exactly how you feel. She overshares and maybe that she wants you to talk about feelings and things like that. Or maybe she does not love you anymore. Maybe she has trauma and if she has known chaos at home she's more likely to repeat the same in her home because even if the feelings are not pleasant these are feelings she knows. Or maybe you're are partly to be blamed. Many have known divorce because they thought that bringing food to the table made them good husbands.

    What I'm sure is that you should have an honest conversation with her.

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  • Tinybird

    I can tell this is a troll post, probably written by a woman to play the devil's advocate. Just the way it reads is very much "r/niceguys", "surface-level", predictable, and generic. It also doesn't really sound like it was written by a dude. OP threw around a lot of buzz words/tricks to "shock" the reader; such as "one time I put my hands on her, but it was HER fault", "yeah I told her to khs but I was just angry", etc. Just doesn't come across as something one would genuinely say or admit. Idk if I'm explaining it properly, I just think it is a troll post

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    • No, this is 100% a serious post.

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      • Tinybird

        Not buying it. It sounds like you're trying desperately to make yourself out to be as unlikable as possible

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        • Well, don't buy it then. If you have nothing to add to this conversation, then you can just leave.

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  • Tommythecaty

    “she complains about things that happened in the past”

    No way...no woman would ever do that 🤣

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    • Just because women do that doesn't mean it isn't irritating as hell.

      Like I said, move on.

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      • Tommythecaty

        I never said it wasn’t irritating cunter.

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        • Then your comment is pointless.

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          • Tommythecaty

            I never said it wasn’t pointless fucko.

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            • I never said you did, you fucking idiot.

              If you have nothing to add here than to pick something stupid to start an argument over, then I don't see why you are here, Tommy boy.

              You should go do what my wife should do, which is learn something.

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  • Somenormie

    TLDR

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    • Here is the TLDR version that I actually put at the end of this post!

      TL;DR My wife is ungrateful, unappreciative, annoying, and then acts like I'm the problem in this relationship.

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    • ospry

      TLDR: OP has narcissistic tendencies and wants to play a martyr because he's emotionally abusive to his wife and she doesn't like it. He's got severe control issues and seems practically Islamic when it comes to ensuring that his wife remains his property, even if he actively despises her

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      • What?

        My wife is the one with the narcissistic tendencies, if anything. She is ungrateful, unappreciative, constantly whines and complains, messes with other men, then likes to play innocent victim and act like I'm the bad guy. But I suppose it's always the man, and never the woman. Women are just little angels that can do no wrong.

        I am in no way, shape, or form abusive to my wife. I do everything for my wife. The people she rather stupidly labeled her "friends" were phony, her mother doesn't give a flying fuck about her, and her father isn't and never was in the picture. Her family wants absolutely nothing to do with her. She doesn't have anyone else. I'm the last person she has. Without me, she has nothing. She's lucky I'm still here to put up with her bullshit. I could have left her like everyone else, but I chose to stay because I love her. But I'm a terrible husband though, right? Whatever, dude.🙄 She's lucky to be in a relationship with a guy like me. Not many girls get as lucky as she does. Maybe if she would stop being an ungrateful bitch, she would see this.

        You know, after the way she's been acting, I don't know if I can blame her family for not wanting anything to do with her.

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