Women are entitled

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Age/gender: 31M
Height: 6’2
Income: 180k+/yr
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I didn’t date until after I hit 30, because yeah.. you guessed it, I went all in on career. During the last 10 months, I have been on a series of bad dates and got rejected for so many stupid reasons that it’s becoming quite a meme. Just an example is how I got dumped for not owning a bicycle despite owning a car.

I really don’t want to come across as bitter, but at this point I’m really thinking that women are entitled because they play the dating game on easy mode. I hope I’m wrong though.

Please enlighten me.

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olderdude-xx

1 year ago

I have 2 suggestions:

1) Join activity groups that do things you are interested in. Every area has them. That way you meet people who at least share one of your interest and you have something to talk about. Make friends, and let them know that you are looking. As long as you are decent and can communicate well... someone will pop up or be recommended to you.

2) A lot of people do not have good interpersonal skills.

I suggest that you get and read: "How to Win Friends & Influence People In The Digital Age" by Dale Carnegie & Associates. This is a modern update to the 1937 classic and it covers internet communication as well.

There are a number of other books on people skills. But this is the base book that almost all other books build off of (or the 1937 original was the base book).

I wish you well with this...

ps: also be patient... finding the right lady that matches you takes time...

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  1 year ago
  
  Definitely going to take both advices. #2 is definitely something I have to work on as I tend to be a bit on the shy side.
  
  Completely agree that it takes time! I made one good friend from the series of bad dates and she didn’t find the one either after almost 2 years (she was on the app a year before me). Oh well, in her case I guess she’s overly picky as she was the one who actually dumped me for not owning a bike. 😅
  
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ospry

1 year ago

Ironic. Doesn't this post sound a bit entitled? You make it sound like you're entitled to a girlfriend

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  1 year ago
  
  Nah buddy, don’t get me wrong.
  
  The reason why I’m making this post is because I have been rejected for the stupidest reasons out there such as:
  * Not owning a bike
  * Not traveling more than a couple of times per year
  * Having a good connection to my parents <- WTF?!?
  * Not drinking alcohol <- come on, I don’t mind if you drink as long as you don’t force me to join in.
  * Being allergic to cats <- I literally told her that I’m willing to take the jab, but that didn’t do… come on, really?
  
  Just summarizing it with: I wouldn’t be complaining if the reasons for why I got rejected weren’t as absurd as they are.
  
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Yaidin

1 year ago

Definetly recommend dating the old fashioned way. It's much easier to walk up to a girl and find something to talk about irl than it is on some dating app, where all you know is that they like pasta, adventures and the office

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  1 year ago
  
  Completely agree on this suggestion. I may however avoid the office as it can be seen as sexual harassment.
  
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AsterBean

1 year ago

Not owning a bicycle means you do not prioritize it. I would questions someone without a bike as well. I don't believe putting your career over family and hobbies is good. I do not want someone who puts work above all esle. But not every woman wants the same things.

Are woman entitled? Damn straight! We all are entitled to happy and healthy relationships however the individual defines them.

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Anonymous Post Author

1 year ago

You’re 100% correct! 👍

I wouldn’t take any offense at all if someone rejected me for:
* Not liking me as a person
* Having different interests
* Not seeing me as their type
list goes on.

All of the above are fair and valid reasons, unlike not owning a bike, not drinking alcohol, having good connection to one’s parents etc. These reasons are just absurd 😁

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Holzman_67

1 year ago

Aw don’t paint them all with the same brush is what I’d say. Be patient don’t lose faith and good luck man

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Somenormie

1 year ago

Entitled women or entitled anything is something I can't stand. One time I met some woman on Tinder and she was entitled as fuck she kept making these bullshit boundaries saying that I'll have to be respectful to her because she was fat luckily I noped out of there as soon as possible and blocked her.

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Anonymous Post Author

1 year ago

All input is always most welcome! 😊

I do have the impression that dating for dudes is like a job interview, but for the ladies it’s just to pick and choose because you get so many matches, right? Would definitely love to hear a counter argument and I will rest my case if proven wrong. (I do hope that I’m wrong, lol) 👍

But yeah, my view is biased as I’m on one of the two sides. There’s always the phenomenon of “the grass is always greener on the other side, but in the end, it’s just the fertilizer”

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hauntedbysandwiches

1 year ago

Huh? No one cares if you don't own a bicycle...lol. I'm a woman and not once have I heard a girl say wow he doesn't own a bike?? I'm dumping him. It makes no sense. If that was the genuine reason a woman left you she has severe mental health issues

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  1 year ago
  
  Completely agree! It may be that I’m fishing in the wrong pond. I have come to realize that there are plenty of people with mental issues on dating apps.
  
  I even saw one of my matches update her profile with a suicide note (yikes) 😬😬😬
  
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  - hauntedbysandwiches
    
    1 year ago
    
    Yeah exactly, there are a ton of people like that on there unfortunately. I remember when I used dating apps I had the most luck with more down to earth/cool people on Okcupid but no idea what that's like anymore. You'll likely find someone eventually! No worries.
    
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Anonymous Post Author

1 year ago

Spot on my friend, spot on.

Unfortunately I am meeting most of my dates on dating apps. It’s mainly to save myself time and to be able to sample as many options as possible in the shortest amount of time. I guess going back to basics may appear less efficient, but in reality be more efficient. Definitely going to investigate options to get my foot in through the door in some clubs/activities!

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Anonnet

1 year ago

Maybe you're ugly.

Sorry, I just wanted to say that. I'm testing your sense of humor, don't shoot me.

I'm not really qualified in this area, but I second Kholat's advice. Keep looking forward. If you're anything like me, the best girl will show up when you're in your worst mood and you don't want that to happen.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  1 year ago
  
  No worries buddy, I can take a joke! 👍
  
  Hmmm, you may have a point though. I’m 6’2, 176 lbs so all good there! However I’m half asian/half white and I guess most girls would like to date within their race. Since I’m a mix, well… I may have drawn the friggin short straw. 😅
  
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  - Anonnet
    
    1 year ago
    
    Nah, I don't know about that. Maybe you can modify your approach? Is there any common thing that happens in every date, especially near-ish the end? Something one of you says, somewhere you are, something one of you does, some event that happens, etc?
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      1 year ago
      
      Hmm, common things…
      * I get a 2nd date 90% of the time
      * I get a 3rd date 70% of the time after the 2nd
      -> It always goes downhill after the 3rd and I only had a 4th and a 5th date with 1 girl out of the many I dated.
      
      I would probably say that the common denominator is that their interest level go from 100 to 0 on the 3rd date and those dates are rarely any different from the first two.
      
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      - Anonnet
        
        1 year ago
        
        Something must be happening on the 3rd date, then. Maybe the fact that it wasn't much different from the first two is part of the issue?
        
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KholatKhult

1 year ago

How old are these women ?

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  1 year ago
  
  Around my age. The youngest I went out with was 27 and the oldest was 32.
  
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  - KholatKhult
    
    1 year ago | pl
    
    Resentment has a heavy smell, women can pick up on it like bloodhounds. If someone were to decide on whether or not to go on a date with you based on this post alone, you’d never see a date again. I hope you don’t talk about this with the women you’re trying to see
    
    Women, on average, have more options in the dating ring, you’re right. We just have to nod and shrug that off and never think of it, in the end a relationship is made by two people, whether women had more options than men or not, both a man and a woman eventually “succeed” in entering a relationship.
    
    Never dwell on reasons, whether they be reasonable or not, for why there was a rejection or a ghost or a loss of interest, the second it’s gone it’s gone don’t think about it. If someone gives you a “silly reason” it’s an excuse or trying to protect your ego - but most importantly it means she isn’t interested. Nod, move on. You don’t want to start a tally and further bitter yourself, it’s highly unattractive.
    
    Dating can be grueling for some folk, it’s meant to be fun, you just have to keep going out and let the bad ones roll off like they never happened. Also, don’t ever end a date without setting up the next one in person, going home and then doing the text “let’s do something again soon” blah blah doesn’t work.
    Before the end of a date you should be having the conversation on when and where the next one should be, go into a first date with a plan for the second, if you like her you ask and if you don’t then don’t. Say the word “date”, you’re not hanging out you’re on a date
    
    Creating a man vs woman mentality will never help you, a fictitious rivalry will not build partnerships
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      1 year ago
      
      Thanks for the awesome input!
      - Completely agree that women’s choices appear to be endless.
      - Completely agree with your point on that one shouldn’t dwell on reasons. Example: I caught a girl lying to me that she can’t continue seeing me as she has to focus on her career. A week later, she was dating a close friend of mine. I just shrugged it off as she lied to spare my feelings, which isn’t necessarily a bad thing to do.
      - Good dates are indeed fun. Unfortunately those are rare and most dates are just a waste of time and money (especially for the dude as we are expected to pay. Most dates cost me over a hundred bucks each).
      
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1WeirdGuy

1 year ago

I say it all the time on here if you want to meet the wife type meet her at a church. If you get involved and you make good money and are a decent guy you'll have young hotties flocking to you. Her parents will even try to get yall hooked up and stuff.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  1 year ago
  
  Ironically I did go out with a church girl (protestant who’s very engaged in volunteering). She test drove my car, scraped it hard over a speed hump and ghosted me.
  
  After she scraped my car over the speed hump, I cringed and she asked “what can I do for you?”. I replied “nothing, don’t worry about it, it’s only a material item”. After we parted ways, she never replied or picked up my calls ever since…
  
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  - 1WeirdGuy
    
    1 year ago
    
    Ok shes a cunt, did you meet her at church or on tinder? surely there's normal ones at church. I just cant imagine meeting a wife now in this day and age on the tinder and stuff. They got a hundred guys a day simping for them might as well buy a whore.
    
    If youre going for wife material you gotta look at the right spot.
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      1 year ago
      
      Hmm, good point. I met her on Match so I would expect slightly more serious people there. There is however always the over choice problem for ladies.
      
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      - 1WeirdGuy
        
        1 year ago
        
        I say church because you may wanna completely stay away from the dating app types. Also they make better wives
        
        Maybe you'd do well with a wing man too. If you have a few funny friends they can help you get laid because they help entertain everyone and keep it fun. Women often remember how she felt with you so if she had a good time she will wanna do it again.
        
        If you have any friends that have girlfriends maybe ask your friends if their girlfriends have any girl friends. Then yall all go out and have fun together.
        
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