Would you pass on someone if?

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They didn’t have many friends? I don’t not close friends and I never have because I find it so hard to make friends. Always being the quiet girl then having social anxiety made it worse. I’m getting better and I have a boyfriend. He has a lot of friends he’s always texting them he’s in loads of group chats... has loads of ‘lads’ but I don’t have ‘the girls’ I go out with my cousin and her friends but that is rare because they’re all coupled up, I have a friend from school, and another friend that’s it, and we don’t text all the time. My boyfriend says he loves me but I’m scared he will judge me because I don’t really have anyone else... and my anxiety is pushing him away before he does ‘judge’ me and find out what a loser I am...
His friends are coupled up.. but he has taken me to see a few of them, yet I don’t really have any friends I can take him to see and it’s bothering me, it’s all I think about and it’s making my anxiety worse again.

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  • NeverOnLand
    4 years ago

    You sound just like me! My fiancé is very charismatic and he has a lot of friends both male and female. His best friends are female and they've been very welcoming to me. It's not easy for me to make friends either, I've also been known as that shy girl. In high school I really only had one best friend but even then we started drifting apart. She'd been my best friend since 3rd grade but I think my sophomore or junior year we stopped hanging out after school. If we had the same lunch I'd sit with her but most of high school we didn't. It wasn't easy really making friends after high school. I've had some coworkers here and there where we've met up a couple times after work but mostly I just chat with people I've met online. My fiancé is always gaming with his headset on and talking to his friends and I just tease and say things like "I wish I had friends." And he just gives me a look and laughs it off. I just turned my lonerness into an ongoing joke. I used to think I was being too needy, since he is my best friend and I just wanted his attention all the time lol. But we just had a baby, 2 months old, so she keeps me plenty busy and I tell him she's my new best friend lol.

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  • JellyBeanBandit
    4 years ago

    I'd say you're just imagining this. Your boyfriend has probably never even thought about how many friends you have, let alone actually caring about it. So chill out, it's just all in your head.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      4 years ago

      Perhaps it’s just bothering me when he’s messaging loads of friends and I don’t have anyone to message

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  • McBean
    4 years ago

    Sometimes, no friends can be a yellow flag. If you can be a friend to his existing friends, that's what counts. It's usually easier to do than making new friends on your own.

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  • RoseIsabella
    4 years ago

    My ex-boyfriend didn't have any friends. I want to say that being friendless can be a red flag.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      4 years ago

      I do have friends. I just don’t see them often, and I’m not always texting them, and I’m not close to them. I’m quiet and have social anxiety and idk

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      • RoseIsabella
        4 years ago

        You sound okay to me.

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    • mia500
      4 years ago

      Just wondering why you think it's a red flag? I also happen to be the one with small cohorts in my relationship

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      • RoseIsabella
        4 years ago

        Small cohorts?

        My exe's lack of friends was a red flag of his social ineptitude, and narcissistic tendencies.

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  • WeirdManFromTheSouth
    4 years ago

    All I can speak for is myself and I personally dont care if a girl doesn't have many friends. I'm more concerned about her looks and her personality.

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  • [Old Memory]
    4 years ago

    Idc about someones popularity. I could care less about how many friends someone has it’s not a deal breaker for me.

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  • Doesnormalmatter
    4 years ago

    I would not pass based on friend count. You need to be their friend and if they have few friends, that might mean more attention for you. Not saying having a lot of friends is bad, but they both have advantages I reckon.

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