I never want to leave the house. is something wrong with me? iin?

I used to be like that. It took me awhile to actually get used to going places again. Every time I went somewhere I would feel sick and light headed. Like everyone was watching me. Take baby steps. Take 10 minutes outside each day, just for a walk around the block. The more you get used to being outside the more places you can go, like the mall. Overcoming this will have its good and bad days. Make sure that while you're out to keep yourself busy. Don't give yourself time to think, Occupy your mind. I like going to places like Dechoes and Platos closet, there are so many interesting things there you wont be thinking about people looking at you, you'll be thinking about how interesting and non-expensive this awesome stuff is. Also, places like those have people that aren't exactly average. No snobby people. Everyone is down to earth. Just realize that what you are going through is just a perception, a habit formed over time. It CAN be solved.

Hi guys I forgot I posted this so many years ago... Update- When I wrote this I was depressed. Incredibly depressed. My social anxiety was ruining my life and I wasn't living the way I should be. My boyfriend at the time had started doing IV drugs and that's why I left him. When I left he got clean, started going to meetings and worked hard to win me back. He's been clean 5 years now and we've been married for 3. Right before our wedding my dad committed suicide. So what should have been a very happy time wasn't. I once again was deeply depressed. I didn't leave the house, I didn't eat. I wanted to die. Even though I had so much to live for it all just seemed too tiring to go through. My mom got us cheap lottery tickets for a Rolling Stones show and lo and behold we won the grand prize, we got to be in the pit 8 feet away from Mick Jagger. It felt like he was singing to us. As we sang along with him "you can't always get what you want, but if you try sometimes, you'll find, you get what you need"... Things came into focus. The world is beautiful. Every day is beautiful. Something my dad told me resonated in me loudly... "Pain is inevitable but suffering is optional"... I got myself together and had a beautiful wedding without my dad. Slowly I started making myself hike or walk every day. I got into running. A week after my dads memorial service my grandpa died. Instead of spiraling into a deep depression, this time I took every opportunity to thank him for the memories he gave me. I talked to him on my walks. I talked to my dad too. My mom and I started traveling together, saving up our money and going to Rolling Stones concerts around the world whenever we could get the chance. My husband and I planned active vacations where we could hike difficult trails and explore. I felt alive for the first time. My life is beautiful now. I can go to restaurants again, I don't cancel plans. I never know when my next plan will be my last, and I'm not going to waste my life sitting inside hoping to die, because the truth is, we all will, we don't know when, and when we do- we will wish we had more time. So I'm not gonna waste it. Xo- thanks for keeping up with my story.

It feel better knowing others are like me...
I don't like to go anywhere....
I do believe its depression though...
I also have low self worth due to years of abuse
I love my laptop...but i'm on it most of the day
I do however want to go out and have fun
I need money to get a personal makeover, then I'll feel better to go somewhere.
AND DON'T SAY MONEY ISN'T THE ANSWER..IT HELPS

I'm the same except it's more that I'd rather not go out due to it been dull. We live in a digital world. I feel like a freak for not been cough cough "normal" but I'm not. The world's not normal and you can't define normal. People just like different things. I don't understand why it's such a big deal. So we like something different and live different to others. So what! Why is it so wrong? I've found this page right now because I'm facing the issue yet again and I see it's actually more to do with others than it is ourseless. They must not be happy themselves unlike us who are perfectly happy to be at home. Even alone. To be happy by yourself is the hardest thing to be comfortable with. Many people can't handle being alone but it's important to be ok with yourself! I'm currently arguing with my girlfriend again about this as she's saying why don't we go out and do something. Ever! Is this how it's going to be. Us never going out together? And don't think I haven't tried to go out with her. There's always a million complications in the way when we do. She had mental health issues and also now has a physical disability on top of this. But this problem was here long before her physical issues. I ask her were do you want to go and what do you want to do? She can never answer this then goes off on one. I remind her of the times we did do some stuff which was enjoyable and she says but that was too expensive! So then I get pissed off and we argue even more. I get pissed off because it was not too expensive. 10 mins of arguing later and finally get to another point which is now revealed that it's too far to travel. By this point I'm fed up of it all. Wanting to do things but can't because of x y z. This to a person who loves to stay indoors and has more fun there than he ever could outside is when I think you know what I've had enough. I made it clear from day 1 this is how I am. 5 years later. Same arguments. I'm done. Have I just wasted 5 years? Can this be fixed? I'm very caring and sacrifice a lot for people bit one thing I won't compromise on Is this. Am I supposed to be single? I thought so but then no one's this unique so there has to be others like me? I think u are like me ? But maybe not as extreme because if I could never go out I never would and that's weird I know!

It's New Year's Eve right now and I was at a family friends house. I hated it. I just got a stomach ache and my mom took me home. I don't know how to over come this. I hate getting out of my little world my comfortable world. I think what we need to do is to go out no matter what. We don't always need to know everyone and feel at home. Sometimes we can observe and be a part of a group that way. The more uncomfortable situations we put ourselves in the more we will get out of it and learn how to be comfortable where ever we go.

Thank Goodness, kind of. Ive become like that, sometimes I don't leave my house for weeks at a time, unless I go outside to work in the yard or do repair & maint on the out side of the house. As long as I stay in "my little world" I am fine. Some days are worse than others, there have been a few times that going to Walgreens caused me so much anxiety that when I got into the car I couldnt remember how to drive. The Walgreens pharmacist ran my meds by on his way to lunch. Fortunatly there have only been a few of those days. Mostly I am perfectly content working on remodeling projects and talking to my wiener dogs. I only start stressing about it when someone gets on my case about it. I have lived with my guy for 8 years and for the most part he accepts it, but every now and then he'll get really angry about it. When he does I will "find" a major project that just HAS to be done, so that I have some justification. Last time I completly gutted the laundry room, so I could remodel & update it...Of course I couldn't go anywhere until the laundry room is done. After all, we do need clean clothes. Isn't that pathetic. My Dr gave me some pills but I can't tell any difference - I Know I need to get some help or something, (it only gets worse as time goes by) but I just don't know what or where to begin. The more I fret or dwell on it the worse it seems. Any advice??

I literally have a mental rolodex of excuses I tell people to get out of doing things. I always agree to hang out, go to dinner, or go for drinks a day or two in advance, but when it comes I just want to stay at home in sweatpants and relax. My sister is the same way. I just don't like dealing with people and forcing conversations. It's just nice to stay in.

I feel like this too I'm 27 but I wasn't always like this I was the one who was putting pressure on people to go out I had lots of relationships was somewhat popular but it's like the past three years I get sick to my stomach the taught of going anywhere people drain me I'm a nice person but sometimes I give off the impression that I'm ignorant but it's not the case I'm just not a fake person I find it difficult to force fake smiles and act interested in stupid chit chat conversations I stopped talking to everyone accept my family I have one friend left and I even ignore him all the time it's like one day I woke up I had no confidence no motivation I'm basically just existing what's wrong with me I just love my comfort zone so much on my own but I don't want this forever everyday seems like a struggle what can I do? And every comment I seen on here today I can relate to and it made me feel less adnormal when I knew other people felt the same way I'm scared to tell anyone in case they judge me and then the spotlight will be on me and then more pressure to do things 😢

I don't like to leave my house either. I go to work, come home, put on Jammie's and go to bed to watch tv. I don't like to talk on the phone and do not accept many social invitations. Yes I know I'm depresses. I take anti depressants and anxiety mess. I've gone to group and private therapy. Since my daughter died 14 years ago, I just want to hide from the world and hope time moves on. When she died, I died emotionally just not physically. I'm not lonely because I prefer to be alone. The world keeps moving forward with so much pain and ugliness that I prefer to hide!

I have this same problem. It is not that I am afraid or anything like that. I just don't like to go anywhere. I make plans, and when the time comes, I send my family and tell them I will catch up, but I never do go to meet up with them. My whole family is sick and tired of it, as it has been going on now for almost 10 years. My husband of 27 years, left me 9 months ago, because he was tired of doing everything by himself. I started see someone a couple months ago and informed him ahead of time of my problem. He just said, oh that 's because your ex was a jerk and you were depressed. From the beginning, he saw that I didn't like leaving the house, and now it has become a real problem. I do not know what is wrong with me. I AM a very outgoing person. Never do I meet a stranger. Always can find something to talk about to anyone, even people I just meet. This can even be someone at Walmart that I just met, I can stand and talk for 2 or 3 hours. I sure wish I could figure this problem out. I am so bad, that I even found a reason not to go on vacation to the Bahamas. I will start picking a fight, just so I can say, well forget it, you just go without me, I don't need this from all of you. I must add one more thing: I am ALWAYS late. That is if I do make it somewhere, I can never get anywhere on time. I miss doctors appointments, teacher -meetings, graduations, was late for own wedding!! I used to make my children almost sick anytime we were going to any events (basketball, softball, tennis, swimming). We were always late. They hated it. Now, my youngest daughter, has become ME!!! She hates it. I must say though, I hate it the most, that I have taught her this. Someone please direct me where I may go for HELP. I know I have a PROBLEM!!

Whoa. I just read what was written here and it's my entire life story. I don't have any advice but just so you know, none of y'all are freaks.

It sounds like low confidence. Do you have a fear of being judge more than you normally would be? I would see a counselor, just even one session to see if you feel better.

An important life lesson is to know yourself and accept yourself for who you are.

This does not mean you shouldn't seek self improvement or try to be the best you can be. What it does mean is that when you try to be something you are not you bring misery upon yourself and those around you. And you waste your life.

God made each of us different. Some people were meant to be busy social butterflies. Some people were meant to travel the world. Some were meant to be teachers, some doctors, some house wives.

I wasted too many years of my own life trying to please others and be what THEY wanted me to be. I was fortunate enough to get this very advice from others and through it I found a lot of peace and happiness.

My style is that I like to have a few close friends as opposed to a large number of acquaintances. I own my own house and I love it. I worked hard for it. Maybe if I had unlimited time and money I might like to see the world. Only my time and money are limited. I choose to invest in my time and money in my home. I like to garden in my yard, cook in my kitchen, and create works of art in my studio.

There are people I know that have chosen to live in an apartment and invest in travelling around and seeing the world. That is great!! I respect the choice they have made for themselves. But the choice that I have made for myself is just as legitimate.

I am not interested in anatomy, biology, and life sciences. So I did not become a doctor. Doctors are wonderful. The position they hold is prestigious. They make a lot of money. But I would be miserable if I tried to become a doctor. I like food. I like to create. So I became a chef. It is not as impressive as being a doctor. It does not pay as much. But doctors need to eat and so does everyone else. The world needs chefs. Being a chef makes me happy. That is who I am and I accept it with no apologies.

Be the best you can be. But ALWAYS accept who you are. God made you. God loves you. We are here on Earth to serve each other. However you choose to do that and whatever you choose to do with the fruits of your righteous toil is completely up to you.

I am also currently having the same feeling, my university is far away needs atleast 6-7hours travel, I came back to home on holidays but now date of starting next session is announced and I have to go again in that place, I just now realised that I hate that city, the people of the city and also my roomates and I don't wanna go back at all but I will have to go there once again. 🙁

I’m not depressed, sad, lonely, etc. I just hate leaving my house. I’ve gone over 6 months without leaving. Luckily, my husband does the grocery shopping. I take care of the house and fix all meals, but never want to leave. Everything I need is here. I’m not materialistic and hate to shop. I don’t care about new clothes or gadgets. When I’ve needed a new monitor, power supply, or something else, I ordered it online. I dread holidays because my family always wants to get together and I have to make excuses. I just don’t like socializing with anyone. I hate talking on the phone, emails, and texting. I don’t understand why people feel the need to do these things. I just want to stay in my home and be left alone. Even when my husband is off two days in a row I start to wish he were at work. I love him and love my time with him, but I just need the time alone. I’m constantly having to ask my family to forgive me for not responding to phone calls/texts because when I hear from someone I dread replying. It feels like an overwhelming task. When we get together for Christmas I stress about going somewhere and the whole time I’m there I’m anxiously waiting to go home. I think I left my house only 3 times in 2017. I wish I never had to leave my home again. I HATE going anyplace. It’s so much effort and takes so much energy. There’s nothing outside I want to do. No place I want to go. I’m happy here in our small apartment and anything I’ll ever need is here. I feel happy just thinking of being here always. This feels normal to me. Why is it a bad thing?

I avoid people. It's not because I am self-conscious or anything like that. I get this exhaustion feeling and would rather clean the house or even go to the grocery store down the road than have lunch with a friend or participate in a study group at church. Interactions with people stress me out and I think it is social anxiety.

I can relate to the above.

1) I am always looking at money in the bank feeling that it might get over.

2) I dont go out of the house except when I have to go to work.

3) My relationship at work are not great, I seem to get frustrated with people easily and end up shouting at people. I have changed many jobs, I work as a contractor and have worked at same place for more than 4 months in last 4 years. People get frustrated with me and i am told to leave

4) I am always insecure at my job and I dont feel confident , I feel the project will fail al the time.

5) I live alone and I have never had relationship in my life and for some reason I dont feel like having a relationship , I dont have any friends either. Only my mom calls out of concern because she is also alone. She lives in different country and I have not met her in last 5 years and she keeps telling me to come back but I think of money and dont go back to her.

6) I spend all my time on laptop reading or watching videos. That the only relationship I have.

7) I am not able to go to doctor becasue i dont want to take a break from work thinking I will loose the money for the day.

Not sure where my life is headed or where I am going. I dont trust any one and some my trust one the world is so low that I dont even trust doctors.

It feels I am trapped in a web and dont have the solution. I know I make lame excuses and I dont feel like travelling as i think i have to spend money.

This is a nice story and i hope it is really you op and if its not thats still ok as it is an uplifting story that can provide hope. You must be very rich and very lucky to b able to travel the world seeing the stones. Those tickets sell out at the speed of light too! Anyway this has it triggered me that walking and hiking always helps me. Thanks for that and whoever u r hope u r well

I'm the same way, I've been lke this for what two years now, and it jst sucks, jst lke everyone else says, I'll set up plans which sound fun but when they come up I absuatlly don't wnat to go, I want to leave the house so bad but I dnt have the negery and when I do go out I get bad anxiety! It's def not a fun thing to deal with , I' jst turned 23 and I'm completly missing out on life:( hole u find something lke counseling or medicine that helps you!

Are you me? 19 here and I see everyone else my age thriving in life and I feel somehow stunted.

I'm going through the same thing right now, I feel so anxious and weird when I'm out, I just keep thinking about how nice it would be IF I was home right now and be like why did I even go out in the first place and keep blaming myself for it, I also feel the same when it comes to feeling like everyone's staring at me and it makes me so uncomforatble, but I was not always like this, I used to have a lot of friends and it was always me that wanted to hang out, but now it's just diffirent I don't even have friends cuz I stopped communicating with them because of all this and I started having feelings like trust issues and prefer my internet friends, it's just really weird I feel like I'm wasting my life. I'm 20 and everyone who's my age are having the best time of their lives.

I go to the beach for six weeks it is in a very small town with one grocery story and it feels very safe. The city overwhelms me. I don't feel like going out we have been all around the city I just want to go to the beach sit under an umbrella and do nothing. I feel like the world is going so fast and everyone is going so fast and working so much I am on a strike I never get off of. I have been learning the Hebrew calendar and it I think will bring order to every day life.
Holidays are chaotic and expensive.
I don't think God intended for us to be in a rush spending money. All of the feast days in the bible are free and I am on a long term strike.

I feel like this behavior or theses feelings for me personally come from wanting to be around safe and familiar surroundings. To have things that are just special to you and have people in your life that you can treasure and be with. I am moving because I need small and familiar and a place that doesn't feel so busy. It sounds like you want to grow and do something meaningful and have people in your life that you can grow with. This may be a huge assumption but I think maybe they symptoms mentioned could be reactions to needing those things

Yeah, i know the feeling i wish i could leave the house if i lived alone!. but being locked up for 6 years never talking to anyone your age but you sister (i am going crazy!). we live in a tiny 500 sq feet house with 8 people.(i feel like i have been grounded for my life!)
I'm 17 and don't have my drivers license! my mom is so cheap she doesn't even what to spend 2grand on a car that she likes better then me. so being locked up for so! long, i have gave up, i don't even want to be a normal teen, all i my they keep saying is we love you to much to let you go into the world or your to young.
it's making me go crazy, i really don't want to be crazy like the rest of my famliy but i am getting closer and closer

It's because you have social anxiety. If you can convince yourself that you're worthless, are more of a liability than an asset in this world, and no one will care if you die in a car crash tomorrow (except maybe your family), then it becomes a lot easier to accept the fact that nothing you do really matters and get comfortable with being different.

You should get therapy if it is affecting your work or life in general. If not then don't worry, with today's technology you really don't have to leave the house unless you want to.

i feel the same like youu i don't know what wrong with mee... i don't want going inside only on summer ...i love staying at home talk with my internet friends they are so much cool then my real frinds (my felling)