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Some believe it is better to be single in life, like its "fun", but i always see being single as being a loser. If youre over 25 and still single, you are looked at like your either a weirdo or you have issues, while being married shows success and responsibility. Successful people always marry, that should say it all! Who thinks being alone with no one to care about you or to hold you at night is "better"?
| married | 10 | |
| single | 14 |
Maybe, just maybe, different things make different people happy. Shocker, I know.
Can you send me your reply from the post about a guy smelling his own ass? It seemed to have been banned.(why???) And I was highly anticipating it. I want to know you thoughts!
Really? Well that sucks!
If my memory serves me well, my remarks to that individual were something like, "You nasty!".
Thats not what I meant. I should have clarified, I didn't want your original comment, I was looking for your reply to my comment that was down a thread that we had. It started with me saying it was weird, then you replied that I was the one who slept with a flashlight up my ass so I shouldn't be talking. Then came the comment of mine that I wanted a response to :
Back then I was horny, kinky and naive as fuck! But now I'm only the first two! Makes actual things designed to go up your ass feel much better now haha.
On a more serious, my sexual interests are pretty fucked. That is just one example of stupid and dangerous shit I did for pleasure or to masterbate too. Now that I'm older I have a better head on my shoulders and do more safe and sane things, but most of those same desires exist. I haven't gone much into detail on here because I'm worried people will think I'm fucked in the head. But is it possible for someone to be like this sexually but perfectly mentally healthy otherwise? Based on various test and assesments I've done, I have low stress in my life and almost no signs of depression or anxiety. I'm good in school and have several normal friendships and ny family thinks I'm fine and normal mentally as well. So the question for you as someone who I can tell knows some psychology, is should I be concerned about this or seek help? Super fucking weird and extreme sexual desires and fetishes but normal from all other indicators. Am I mentally healthy?
marriage isn’t for everyone. i can’t see myself as someone’s wife. haven’t felt that way about guys i've dated in the past. i'm content being in a relationship as long as the other half is happy nomsayin'? ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Who says this stuff in real life? I have plenty of single friends in their 30s, 40s and 50s and no one looks at them like losers. Some are married to their careers, some are divorced and some are in life long partnerships but have chosen not to get married for whatever reason.
The only time I've ever felt sorry for a single person is if their wife/husband has recently left them or died. Then I'll admit I feel sorry for them. But the rest of the time I couldn't give a shit.
Just leave people to their own lives.
I always wanted to marry but my financial instability unstable job career always prevented me to have dependents. I am 40 now still single and I have no regrets for having a single life.
I don't define myself, or others by relationship status. If people want to see me as a loser, because I'm single they can just fuck off, because I don't exist here on this planet to meet other people's expectations of what they think I should be.
You have the right to believe whatever kinda malarkey you want about me, and other people, but I have the right to disagree with you, and not want to be around you, or others like yourself.
I'm not interested in constantly compromising myself, and my life in order to accommodate another person.
I imagine most people our age have at least one divorce under our belt.
Funny how it works, when we are young we will bend over backwards in pursuit of sex and/or a relationship but as we age, we think, "If it's THAT much hassle then hell with it".
I sure as shit stinks am not interested in uprooting my life to accommodate someone else's expectations.
I think my favorite "love" song that might describe views on dating as we get a bit older and wiser is "I'd really love to see you tonight".
You know Rose, I am glad you are here. At least one person I can relate to who understands how us Gen X'ers now feel.
i dont think youre a loser, you seem real. its just that being single is a stigma, and people are always in denial trying to act like its so much better while they too silently wish they were married as well.. single people get screwed on their taxes even, its no bargain!
I see what you're saying, and I don't appreciate being screwed on taxes, but it's not enough for me to want to be in a relationship with someone. I think the people who perpetuate the stigma of single people being losers are jerks.
I'm very happy that I don't have to cook, or clean for another person, or take care of children.
but wouldnt it be nice to find one youd WANT to do that for rather than staying single?
What you are doing makes sense to me. You can get laid whenever you want, and have memories of a lifetime of excellent sexual adventures. This is good. But, you are not the common woman.
There is a broad spectrum of people with varying degrees of attractiveness, and psycho-sexual magnetism. For the most part, I think men and women have a more positive state of emotional health if they are having regular sex. Some people get more sex by being single, while others get more sex by being married. The lowest 3% of the population can unfortunately only get sex by paying for it. God bless them.
And so I say, if your partner is uncooperative, or if you are single and you can't get noticed at the bar, or even if your dog or cat is your only friend, DO have a good wank with an earth shattering orgasm, and then say goodnight to the moon. We should all feel the peacefulness of life, and wake with refreshed expectations.
It depends on where you fall on the social level and their perspective.
There's too many variables to consider but sometimes folks just prefer their individual lifestyle that allows them to mingle with people without commitments and restraints.
I also think it's a misconception to say that if you don't have a significant other than you "don't have someone that cares for you" because there are other types of relationships outside of romantic ones, such as family and friendships, which sometimes is enough for people.
I would say that it could be a bit of a downfall on the later years of your life when you're getting old as obviously the single young lifestyle can't be kept up and it would result in having less social involvement.
But yeah, there's too many variables on types of people. It works for some people and for others it doesn't.
Why are you comparing being single with being married, what about just being in a relationship? I definitely want to be in a lifelong relationship one day but I'd never get married.
I think this is quite a common view point these days. I know a few people who are in lifelong relationships with no intention of getting married.
what is the problem with commitment? im only 41, not old, but still dont get why people are so scarf to commit to a marriage!
I am married so I can't really answer, you'd have to ask them. But they seem happy enough to me?
of course they are, your existence means something.. get sick or hurt single, who gives a fuck really, but married, people are there to care. when youre single its all about sex, but theres nothing else really, such a sad empty existence, marriage is way more!
I don't see the point in it. To me it seems like everyone gets married just cos that's what they're supposed to do if they've been with someone for so long. Like people will judge them and gossip if they don't get married, that they'll value their relationship as being less legitimate because they didn't throw tons of money away on a party and sign a register, that's so stupid. Plus what changes after you get married? It's not required to live together or have kids, you won't love each other any more. Granted there are some tax benefits that I don't really understand, but that just seems weird to me anyway, to get the state and the law involved in your personal loving relationship. It just seems like a kind of bet. You're betting everyone at the wedding that the relationship will last and you're betting a load of legal hassle if it fails. But they're clearly overestimating their relationship if they do that, even people with the strongest relationships can fall apart years down the line. And then as well as serious heartbreak you have to deal with a possibly vindictive ex who wants to hurt you as much as possible by taking as much money off of you as they can.
being married stands for something, which is why it gets more respect, its always the 40yo loser creep whos living in a basement somewhere whos usually single, NOT the married person
What does it stand for that unmarried relationships can't stand for? It's just a status thing, people give it more respect just because of the word 'married', the word 'relationship' doesn't sound as strong. To be fair that is because the word 'relationship' or 'girlfriend' or 'partner' can be equally used to describe someone you've been with for a few weeks or a few decades. It's annoying that unmarried people don't have a similarly strong sounding word for relationships they intend to last the rest of their lives. But once you make it clear that you've been together for years and you intend to stay together forever, there should be no reason why a married couple should get more respect.
Why is a 40 year old a loser or a creep for living in a basement or being single?
the reason there isnt a strong word for being single is because being single isnt strong like being married . people may INTEND on being with someone for the rest of their lives, but ive never met one couple who are single but together in my 41 years whove been single together all their lives...or even for 10 yrs, have you? all this its just as good is just denial, single guys over 40 are hiding their issues, i would be really cautious of a guy whos lived that much of his life who is still not married. why do you think its always so much more intense dating/sneaking around with MARRIED guys? id much rather do that cuz i know hes got his shit together, the creep still living with his mother at 45 obviously DOESN'T.
I don't think of anyone over 25 and single as a weirdo... dunno where you got that idea from.
Also don't compare your life to those successful people you mentioned. They probably hate each other in secret and only married each other as a status symbol. Just sayin'.
I wouldn't consider that being alone tho lol, ideally you guys would be with a different partner every night wouldn't you?
(in reference to "Who thinks being alone with no one to care about you or to hold you at night is 'better'?")
Yep! It all depends on what I can get for me, but marriage? No. In the title he did say single or married, not really defining the terms to well. What if someone has a partner their close with but not legally married? Or what if you are happy with the sex you get off and on but don't have a single partner? Its not your either happily married or you only fap in your parents basement, there is some gray area here esepecially in the 21st century.
Ya I was just answering his/her question at the end of the post with that one. Im a loner and introvert and I can't imagine wanting to be intimate with someone every night, it would be very draining unless we were super close emotionally. I would probably marry them too if that were the case, but I doubt I will ever find that person
Good point! We view marriage similarly it sounds like, except gor different reasons. Right now I'm too young, horny and adventurous to have time for that shit. But just like you, I don't totally rule it out. If I meet a girl who wants to change my mind, I will give her a chance.
I want to get married someday. Just idk.. would be nice to have a husband
i agree, married is way better, when i see a guy whos over 40 and still not married, i see issues!
There are too many comments here and I’m not going to read them all but I will say that a lot of married people are miserable even though they thought they would be happy at first so OP, being married isn’t everything. Some single people are happy and some aren’t. Some married people are happy and some aren’t. Either status doesn’t necessarily make somebody a loser. Live and let live.
Can you change your poll to multiple choice please?
Both have their perks and disadvantages. I am probably better off single.
I see no appeal in getting married, if a woman would change my mind I'm open to it, but it seems so restricting. How could you never get sick of banging the same pussy?
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Ok, here is my wisdom tidbit of the day; being married 100% depends on to whom WHO you are married. Its like being stuck in an elevator; if you’re with someone you love, enjoy and find sexy it’s awesome. If you’re not it’s the worst thing in the world. You’d be much happier alone.
said very well, but the suicide rate is much higher in single people.. isnt it obvious its not because theyre happy?
Alright -
To each their own. I understand when one is young, the whole marriage or relationship thing SEEMS important but then people get married and once the romance wears off, then one wants to be single again.
There is some jeweler here who's commercials always say things like "So if you are a young man in love but don't have a lot of money, I want to help you pick the best diamond ring..."
He never says, "if you are older and getting engaged again..." because men AND women over a certain age (maybe 35?) know better.
If you yourself wish to be married, by all means pursue it. I will admit I would like to have a relationship but I do NOT want someone trying to tell me how to live.
My friend, you’re wrong. Imagine being married to someone who hates you. Who annoys you. It’d be much worse.
Respectfully, find meaning in what you do for others. Love will follow.
Speak for yourself, because there are plenty of other people who enjoy being single, and don't want to be tied down to anyone.
what you guys arent getting is that being single, apart from temporary fun, is a meaningless state with no substance and no future for people who lack ability to commit.. marriage requires work and commitment, but the reward is so much better than being single!
Fuck off! That is completely your opinion! Stop stating it as a fact! Being single is a "meaningless state"? what the fuck does that even mean? Life has no meaning if your single? You are so close minded and or brainwashed about this. I know people personally who strongly regret getting married and ramble on about how stupid it was of them. The reality is, some people get a lot of value from marriage, some don't. But to say its a black and white issue and your a loser and your life is meaningless if your single is 100% pure idiocy.
what are you gonna accomplish in the end.. make a ton of money, be 100% independent and die... but who will give a fuck my friend, whats the point of success when youre the only one seeing it?
Listen buddy, your right about succeding but having nobody to enjoy it with, but the issue is that its not as simple as either your married or your alone. What if you have good close friends to see sucess with? Or family memebers? Or even someone in a close romantic relationship outside of marriage? There are other people in your life that can see your sucess, so if thats the point your making, your still way off from reality.
but if youre that close with them.,WHY stay unwed, MARRY THEM, duh! wouldnt it be so much better and meaningful with the COMMITMENT? i cant imagine not marrying my husband and just living together..THATS just an opportunity for some other woman to come along!
First off, what about friends and family seeing your sucess? Can you adress those please? Secondly, marriage is risky. Some people seem like they were meant for you at the time, but over the course of living together for many years, things may turn up anout their past or personality that make you incompatible. This was the case with a good friend of mines dad who divorced his wife after she tried to KILL him. Also in America nowadays, a woman who marries a wealthy man can divorce and take half his income for the rest of his life even if the were only briefly married and she didn't help make ANY of it. Don't you at least see why some wealthier business type people wouldn't consider that worth the risk? Other things make people happy besides close romantic companions, such as wealth, prestige, personal betterment and sex. I am NOT trying to cast shade on those whose life goal is a happy marriage, but have some tolerance for those who don't prioritize the exact same things as you!