Indian man exclusively attracted to white women

I am 36 years old. I am Indian and I met my wife who is Italian in 1991 when we were 17 in college. I had the option to pursue other indian girls that were there with whom I befriended. I remember sitting with 2 indian girls and one italian girl in the cafeteria for an extended period of time. During that time my connection with the italian girl increased but the other 2 girls it diminished.(Our sense of humour was at the same level). She made me feel the way I wanted to feel. There is no direspect to the Indian girls but at that point the attraction was with her.

We dated for 8 years and got married and it will be 12 years this year. It's gonna be 20 great years with her and I am glad that I never held back and said my culture comes first. Who knows how my life would have turned out if I didn't go out with her beacause she wasn't Indian.

My parents requested for me to stop and get married to and Indian girl. I didn't listen and I went with my heart and in the end to this very day, I am as happy as can be.

I didn't choose to marry a white women, I chose to marry my bestfriend.

I am a 29 yr. old white american girl. From my own experience, I can say that it is better that you choose what you want most. Don't stay in this unnecessary state of confusion. If you are true to yourself, you will do what you want, and not what your family wants. I dated an Indian man, my same age, for 3.5 yrs. He came to U.S. for Masters and that's where we met. That relationship change my personalty. I in fact, became a bit discriminatory against indian women, as they were the soul reason why I couldn't keep my boyfriend. The best yrs. of my life were ripped away from me. We loved each other and even spoke of marriage. But, in the end, though he was very torn, he chose to comply with his parents and have an arranged marriage. Do what you need to do for your own self as long as you can be happy in the end with your partner of choice. And certainly never string a white american girl along if you believe it is wrong in the first place :)

When I was in India, I liked only Indian girls. I liked one particular girl a lot - she was by no means beautiful, but I thought she was good at heart and liked her. Only later I realized what a disrespectful manipulative person she turned out to be. Not that I was an angel though - I always had a tough time telling her I liked her and I take the worst case scenario and blame myself for that. But I cannot stop feeling that she never gave me a chance to tell her that - and that she kept stringing me. But I must assume that I strung her instead and take the bitter pill and never do something like this again, ever.

Since coming down to the US, I've seen so many women of so many different races. I look at Japanese women, and I feel they are very hardworking. I look at American women, and I feel they are so well mannered. I look at Latina women, and I feel they are very loving. I look at Afro American women, and I find some of them simply seductively beautiful.

You see, all I hope for is to find a girl who loves me for what I am. That's all. Whether she is white or brown or Indian or not doesn't matter to me because if she is really human, she will care and I will care for her. I love my Parents a lot too. My Mother worries for me like any Mother would. If I get a good girl who likes my Mother for what She is (yes, not the reverse!), I know that my Mother will like Her back too, because honest feelings evoke honest loving feelings as reactions from others.

I love my heritage, my culture. Indian culture's central theme is "Vasudha eka kutumbam", which means "The earth is one family". It says "Aham Brahmasmi" which means, everything is one as Brahman. We're all one.

I just really wish to find my love. I'm 28 and I've really slogged a lot in my life to get where I've come, with my Parents' sacrifices and God's blessings. But in the past 2 years I've felt very distracted due to loneliness and have longed for a soulmate, but somehow, it hasn't happened. This has led to a drop in my productivity at work, unfortunately. I've realized I've got to be philosophical about this and must get back to my optimal productivity and discipline.

I didn't say all this in order to rant - I just wanted to request everyone to foster feelings of love and thoughts of affection in their hearts and minds, for I really believe this is the only way to attract like minded people. I may be wrong, but I would live chivalrously rather than pursue meaningless mirages of relationships.

May everyone be happy,
Best Regards,
Vijay.

I'm a white woman seeing an Indian man (first Indian I've dated) who is handsome, intelligent, thoughtful and kind. I have no idea why he is interested in me, but I'm enjoying it while it lasts, I know I can hope for nothing more. He got divorced from an Indian woman. He has a job he loves in a fairly rural area that has only white people, so I guess he doesn't have much of a choice. I think you should look around for a westernized Indian girl. Keep an open mind, there are plenty out there. It is too lonely not having your own culture and religion around you after the initial attraction has worn off.

I think you should pursue your attraction, because more than likely it will be the only way for you to be happy. Have you tried dating white women in college? If you were to marry a white women would your parents and siblings never talk to you again?

I don't think your children will recieve that much racism just depends which community you live in, because the amount of mixed children is growing rapidly, and you can teach them of their culture from what you know. If you want to marry a white women then you are going to have to give up most of your traditions because an American white female is going to want to live the way most Americans do. The difference with your culture is most people from India don't believe in love at first sight they believe in growing into love.

Good luck to you, but remember you should never marry for lust or just physical attraction it is more important what is on the inside then what is on the outside.

I don't know how old this is. I just joined the site.

I can tell you that what you feel is normal. I know other indians who are attracted to non indians and they told their parents to get them of their backs, they might not be as judgemental as you think.....and there are so many white women and men out there that would happily embrace the indian culture. In the UK, Anglo-Indian is a term in it self meaning half English and half Indian. All down to it I am attracted to indian men and I know I would accept the culture however I think it's more indians who have a problem accepting the fact that a white person would become a part of them, depending on background...Because in the UK most indian decent people have been born here, so an indian girl does not have to be indian at heart and would be regarded the same way as a white girl. The culture and customs is all down to you at the end of the day.

about your parents trying to show you girls, tell them not to, you are a 26 year old grown man, is it not time for you to do it your way?!

this is my impression of the indian culture as I had a boyfriend who was British, but Indian decent. You have great family values however you care to much about what mummy and daddy thinks and you are secretive. I am only hoping one day I will meet a decent Indian who would accept my past and not be ashamed of me as his woman, as most Indian families would not accept a tall leggy blonde scandinavian girl who happens to be a single mother....Hope I gave you some insight

To start with I would like to point out that you are generalizing Indian women. 'Indian women, in contrast, are deep-down conservative and do not satisfy me the way White women are able to.' If white women are your personal preference it is understandable, but do not think that all Indian women are conservative, your personal preference should not stereotype an entire race of women, and I fail to understand why you need to justify your preference with a particular race of women by generalizing the other race.
@ priyaraixx
You are no better than the people you are generalizing either. You are a racist yourself, dnt assume that every women in India is so white and virginal.And if they are it is just because they are not given a choice to make most of their life choices. At least the western woman choose to wear clothes that they prefer quiet unlike the Indian woman who fears the society condemning them if they wear revealing clothing.
What is so holy and pure at the fact that India bans porn? Do you think people in India do not watch porn, btw the whole act of condemning porn come from Christian ideologies(no offens thou)and India has the oldest porn book written 'kama sutra' have you visited khajrao temple- a temple which has sex positions depicted in its walls. The hindu religion 's original ideas never saw sex as a sin!
Also you talk about the high divorce rates in the west, you must understand that most of these people have made choices regarding what sort of partners they want in life. In India on the other hand women are brought up thinking that they belong to some man.Married off at early ages they live see woman sacrificing their entire lives for their husbands and children and so think nothing of it. They are condemned by the society if they get a divorce and thus they fear it. Marital rape is still Legal in India and up till the domestic violence act 2005 was passed domestic violence was still acceptable by law!
Hindu amendment act 2005 was when woman could official inherit property to which they had no legal rights prior to this act. Do you know the amount of violence that take place every year against women and how fragile the Indian legal system is.
Am not condemning India, am an indian myself but dnt go all high and mighty before understanding wht is really going on.
There is nothing to brag about femininity and the fact that Indian women are so docile whn all they get from it is suffering. Maybe we should take a leaf out of the western culture's progressiveness and try to accept the fact that woman should be strong!

Interesting. I am a white male and I think Indian women are beautiful and so gentle. Whatever floats your boat. Go for it.

hey is it a race war or what???i am a paki..why this so much crap talkabout indians..my country is regarded as the most stupid country in the world yet i dont care..i consider myself as human not paki....i think of myself as of this world who thinks has been given a liscence to date any girl of the world...if i was living in amerika..being a paki i wont hesitate in dating a white girl ..so go ahead with ur plans indian boy...go against ur family and marry a white woman.ur family isnt sincere with you if they dont let u choose ur bride..so go and marry a white girl...

@KIIKX
"SO desi boy, try harder! and white people...thats the honest truth...if you're dating a desi...mostly likely they're total losers already and ostracized from their community (which is why they 'hate' the culture)"
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Hahahaha....this comment shows your immaturity,insecurity.I dont think all indian women are immature like you.Being an indian hindu guy i am also crazy for white women but does that mean i am a loser...lol..i dont think so.This is all a matter of personal choices.Cmmon give your intelligence a huge jolt if its indeed present inside you... : )

You have a very good point. I'm Costa Rican with dirty blondish hair and Im really attracted to Indian men, I think they are so cute. My favorite Indian actor is Sabu Dastagir, he is so ADORABLE! I watch his videos all the time. But back on the subject, if someone is attracted to someone else then race doesn't matter, people should just stop judging other nationalites, because everyone is human here, it's not like thier aliens...infact, a indian boy likes me now and i like him :)

I think you should go for it. Although tradition is important, so is happiness. I'm a white woman, and i'm not attracted to white guys. If I married someone from a different race/culture/religion than me though, it would be important for the child to learn their history and know both sides.

i think you're stereotyping women in general. maybe you're meeting all the wrong people. my cousins boyfriend is indian, and we're filipino. he was born here in LA, so he's been exposed to just about every race. i think you lack that. its more about about being exposed to other races to accept them more, and you need to see women as individuals rather than racial groups. we're not always the same.

unless you're talking about sexual attraction, but by the looks of your story, i guess not.

What has happened to loving a person for the person they are? Beauty comes from within. We all know that outer beauty fades. I am a white female and I respect people of all countries, of all nationalities. Indian women are very beautiful to me. I respect the culture because they are more conservative than many Americans. I respect the western culture and their morals and values though at the same time, I do understand that there are many cultures with strong morals and values and whom are of a conservative nature. We of course are often atracted to certain types of people...I myself, am not attracted to the lighter skin tone or blue eyes...I don't know why, I'm just not...it doesn't mean though that they are not attractive...to someone else. Once again, love they person for the beauty within, not the nationality.

to vilen10dency: He said very plainly that he enjoys white women's sense of independence. I don't think that qualifies as lustful?

To the author: I'm white, and I love asian guys. It's just the way personal preference goes. But let's put it this way - either you can do what your family wants, or you can do what you want. If you do what your family wants, there is a very high chance that you will be very unhappy. If you are unhappy, your wife will be unhappy and if you both are unhappy, the kids probably won't be so cheery either. On the other hand, if you do what you want, you will be technically disowned by the people you love very much ( I assume ). The decision is very big, and no one can decide for you. However, you could always move far away from your current residence. There are many communities in the United States that are very accepting of multicultural families and such. Perhaps it would be better to do what makes YOU happy, and find a place where the people will love you for it.

I am a Bangladesh/Indian woman living in Canada and fiercely love my country. My parents were immigrants that struggled and sacrificed THEIR happiness for mine. I have never been blinded by the western lifestyle and knew that in the future, I would like my children loved and raised the same way my father took care of me. Took me to the first boring Cricket match (which is still a fond memory), having delicious homemade food that my mother and he cooked together, religiously creating and maintaining bonds with our family back home....so that now, at 27 years old, I can go back to Bangladesh after being raised in Canada, and feel at home with my family.

My parents have NEVER been judgemental, and look more at the soul of the person over color. However, I realized that the life that I want...to grow old with someone that LOVES the same things as me...is only found in a South Asian. I just recently got married, and my husband had never been with a Indian person before...didn't like them, didnt want to marry them. His brother married a white lady and comes over to his parents house by himself to get a decent desi meal. My sister-in-law is an INCREDIBLE woman, who I love dearly...however 99.9% of the time, she just doesnt get it and has unintentionally caused much stress and tension in the family.

In the end, my husband and I love each others culture and the values it has instilled in us from birth. And (so he tells me), he loves me for my carefree ways, my happiness, ability to take huge amounts of pressure (hey, I can handle 2 indian families! I can take anything!), and knows that in the end, I will be with him thru thick and thin and help him be the man he wants to be.

So to sum it up, you, my dear Indian man, are only looking at color due to lust and a life free of real-life trials and tribulations. In reality, there are plenty of Indian woman, as there are Asian women, white women, black women, and even purple women, who are either angry pain in the butt bitches, but there are also the super lovely human beings in every culture who just need to be found.

Remember that looks last for a few years, but the mind and soul will last till the grave.

And if you are only attracted to white women, what will happen when you're old and can't get it up?

Hey I am a white gal married to an Indian and have been happily married for 4 years now and we have a 3 year old daughter and NO ONE is racist towards her what so ever. In fact people tell us me made such a cute daughter and ask when more are on the way. Don't be so closed minded to the possibilities. My husband also knew from a young age he didn't want to marry an Indian gal. I have been to India to meet his family and they have been here and they were very nice to me and my family. Indian families are not so closed minded these days from what I see. I know many white gals married to Indians. Besides your parents are not your future...your wife is! Good luck whatever you decide! Cheers mate.

I am a young black woman whose dated three indian men. I wouldn't do it again. In my experience, they lie, cheat, manipulate, and string American women along even though they are aware their parents won't approve.They know they don't have the courage to stand up for what they they believe. I think it is a waste of time. Sometimes I see the indian guy I dated and he cannot stop staring at me. He knows I am a good woman and he betrayed me. I lost repsect for him. I do not trust him at all. I just think it is very selfish to not think of someone else's feelings.
Also, the first two indian men left me fast after I told them I wanted to remain a virgin for my husband. They are so hypocritical and use women when they come to college in America.

Indian men care about status and what their indian family/friends think. They do not know how to think outside the box. I know I deserve a man who appreciates me for me. They are the ones missing out on good people because all they know are stereotypes instead of getting to know people on the individual basis.

Ok...is ur life but dont hurt to anybody all the time u need to be honest cuz in my experience, one indian guy broke my heart...and his best friend ( he is my friend too) gave me the new that he will marry this december...he never called me again...then is not fair someone plays with ur heart...! good luck...and just follow ur hapiness, trust me ur sons will be fine!!! and the most important thing YOU!!!

ps: dont angry with me, i talked about my experience and is my point of view

MARRIAGE is not an easy thing u have to think about it 100 times....for me u have to follow ur heart and wat u wants so u will be happy forever coz married is not just a week, a month or a year its a lifetime....but i also understand ur worries about ur family but they r not the one who will be with ur wife everyday every night its u so the dicission is still on ur hands....

you are attracted more to a different culture it's not the woman it's the culture difference think about it

Tricky indeed.
I'm just wondering if you marry an Indian girl like you're expected to, and the marriage falls to bits, seeing as you're not happy. Will you be frowned even more upon?

My comment is for smurfoo7(35474), I'm a white eastern european woman at 32 and never had sex, shocking! I live in USA and I've dated 3 american men from the age of 22 to 24, and my relations with them were short, didn't even last for a month, because I said NO to sex. Being a virgin before marriage is very attractive on both sides. Never smoked, never drank alcohol, never lied about anything, from my childhood I liked to live a spiritual life. I only weigh 111 lbs now due to fasting and praying (I'm a christian orthodox), I don't look like 32 at all. My love to a man comes from my heart, I never liked to go out and dine, never expected for a man to spend money on me. I expect my marriage to be for life until death whenever that happens. There are different people on this earth.

I think everyone has there own conflict of interest.I am an indian guy born in the caribbean and now living in England. YES..indians were born in the caribbean too..Anyway,most of my life i have been dating indian girls(i am only 30)and i will tell you,it was great.They were all unique in there own way.The problem is that i don't think i can marry one.I am honestly attracted to white women and not in the sleezy way some of you might think..i really fancy them.I have been out with a couple of them but nothing serious.i honestly think that i will marry one and it's not about they are independent or ambitious noting like that.Indian women i have been out with were too.I am just really attracted to them.On the other hand my parents will never tell me who to marry and if they ever do i will tell them to back the f**k off.It's me who has to live with this person and not them.When my parents die (god forbid)then i would be wondering what would if of been like to have dated a white girl.here in England i used to date a indian girl who broke up with the love of her life(white guy)because of her father.She is 38 now and still not happy and the father is still alive.What a shame,because i told her if she really followed her heart she would of been happy today.All i am saying is that life will pass you by and you wouldn't have experienced what you really want.So go for it.

fuck that man arranged marriage are you all on fucking crack? marry someone you fucking want to marry wtf is wrong with you people

I am currently dating a Hindu, who is a very kind, warm and sensible yet loving person. I am white and blonde. Although we know we can not be together because of his eventual expectations to marry. He has to fufill a spiritual duty and I understand this. I am sad but enjoying the time i have with this person. I have to say we both feel that we would rather have known each other and lost it than never to have experienced each other. I have learnt from him so much, and he I. He is my best friend. Because I care for him so much I would never beg him to choose his family, religion and culture for me. I am Buddhist. Our conversations exceed anything I have experienced with a man of my own western world, and I find him more attentive, supportive and a very good listener. Its not all about sex at all. I am good friends with his sister who is I have to confess not stereotypical reserved and humble a young lady, she is very much like our western ladies, drinks, smokes, clubs and has many boyfriends. So its not about a people. Its about individuals. But even so Realistic has to be given order of the day. Our worlds are far apart. I do love him with all my heart, and he me. Unfortunately we live in a bigoted and prejudiced world, that will never change. I would never put down a Hindu lady or a Western one, as although we are all different, its what is inside that counts. We are all human. We talk about ourselves as different and we are not. Not really, we share the same sky, same sun and live on the same planet regardless of smaller differences. For any person to be together of a different culture the whole world has to change, open and embrace every single being. I am going to enjoy the time with my man that I have and praise upstairs I even have this small part of him.

I am a Caucasian woman. I was only attracted to Caucasian and Latino men in the past. However, I have developed friendships and working relationships with many East Indians in the past few years. Based on the media, I had some prejudices about Indian men and how they treated their Indian women as subservient. That was until I actually hung out with Indians and realized quickly how wrong and ignorant I was about their culture. I find as a people that their humor, gentle spirit, and culture as well as chicken tikki masala (haha) stir up an attraction in me. I have dated a few Indian men recently out of curiosity and now I have curry fever. Because of this I question a few things. Am I attracted to the man I'm dating as a person or his intriguing culture? Is he just curious and views white women as easy? Does he really like me as a person? I am a woman of traditional values and by no means am I an easy lay. I have to see a potential future to be intimate with someone. If things get serious with an Indian man, will we realize that our family, faith, and culture are just too different and heartache is inevitable? Is this some kind of exploratory phase I'm going through and it will pass? Why is he with me, a white woman and not an Indian woman? I don't have answers so a blog post seemed like a good idea.

After reading all the posts...

PRIYA RAI WINS!!!

Indian women rock..

On one side my heart desire is to big ,on other side my dutyes and obligations that I have for my family ...
I cant left my family couse my parents are old and they need me ,our family busyness have to be runed ,my kid need me still ( she is 14) ,my parents dont wish to accept my divorce and give blessing so that I can marry love of my life ,but how I can let her go when I love her the most ?
I can imagine to move on other place and to share rest of my life with her but the same time I wish to live with my kid also ,dont wish to lose my kid .What my parents wish more from me ?
My parents already poisened my kid mines and now my kid repead me that she wish to live with me but with her mom also .They all play games in that house .
Everybody say -parents should love their kids the most and if they love truly than they wish the best for their kids and even more important -they wish to see their kids are happy ,or? I am also father and I will suport my kid no matter what. What I have to do that my parents finaly start to love me ,care about my wishes and my feelings?
One day I think I have to sacrifice my love ,rest of my life ,but already next day I think whats for ? Who is now happy? I am to much puzzled
Can you belive I am all time sourounded with at lies 3-4 people but all time when I am not with her I feel terrible lonely ,I cant find reason for smile .
Am I really bad person? What did I do wrong in my privious life that I have to sufer now so much?
Any sugestion ?

Well, for all indian women and men stay away from whites, first of all i would like to give you advice, that you should learn your history deeply, see what white colonizers did in “India”..they raped us Indian women and forced us into prostitution..!!!did you know it..???see more about “red light areas” of Mumbai and Bengal, see how they cruelly assassinated us Indians, they even not thought of children and women, do you remember “jaliyawalan bag hatyakind” and that Devil “General dyre”..
i hate to say that some who**rish Indian Women ashamed us respected Indian women…When they say the love white men..!!!
and who started this blog and why he’s started this thread..who said that we “Indian wimmen” like your w**nkers.
how can our relationship would work with them ..if their own marriages don’t work more then three or four years..
and yeah once again..we don’t like to import white skin into india..we just care a beautiful heart with love and care ..what i find only in our own kind only..!!!

The grass is always greener on the other side. One who doesn't appreciate or admire his own cultural values and women will never appreciate any other culture or woman. Maybe initial attraction helps. Let the lust calm down and he will start finding flaws in the white woman he is with due to his prejudice. He will go with a white woman with his prejudice that they are independent and have sweet attitude. White women are humans too, they behave like any other person with normal feelings, react angrily or exercise their independent mind and this person will start seeing that as a trouble, gets dissapointed and jumps to another race, perhaps Latinos because they are blah blah blah...I am not attracted to Indian and women women because they are blah blah blah... and his saga continues with dissapointments with all women on earth. May be he should just have fun with all women, ultimately, Indian men are known to have all fun with all available white women and marry an Indian virgin "forced" upon them by their parents. They are not even man enough to tell their white girlfriends that they wanted to have fun and marry an Indian girl, instead, blame their parents like their parents tied them up to marry an Indian girl.

Everyone knows white girls are the hottest =)

oh and one more thing..I see someone has put a list about how white women are like

let me tell you, I am as white as snow. I was brought up going to church every sunday. My faith has a divorce rate of 6% and family values are very highly valued.

I know some REALLY BAD south asian girls...

I know of an indian guy, whos wife who was indian cheated on him.

I know of an indian woman who ran from her indian husband a year after they were married. Took all the gold and went with a english guy

This one indian lady had 3 children outside wedlock ( relevant if you think they are all good girls until they are married)

I know of indian girl who got pregnant as a teenager...

the most disgusting I have experienced, I was on a school trip sharing a room with this south asian girl, it was only 2 nights! however on first night she brought this guy in and did things with him in the bathroom. The 2nd day she brought another different guy into the room, ready to get naked with him in bed. Me a girl with high morals got out of my own bed and said, I am to conservative for this, please leave! and he left. so indian girls are good girls?! thats up to you to find out..

I hope that you go with your heart if you find yourself in love with a white girl, or any girl for that matter. Do what makes you happy and try to get your family to accept your decision. If they love you, they should support your decision.

I myself am in a relationship with an Indian guy for over a year now. I'm madly in love with him but just recently found out that he doesn't think he could ever marry me due to cultural differences, his family, etc. Call me naive, but I didn't know this would be such an issue. I guess I didn't think it would matter.
For me, I would have no problem embracing his culture and learning all I could about it and raising our children according to his culture and traditions. I must say it's heartbreaking to find this out now.

Good luck to you and I hope you have the strenght and courage to do what's in your heart.

Good article. I completely agree with you. I'm also from Indian decent, North to be exact. But I'm very "Westernized". I consider myself to be American because of the freedom and everything I have ever known is this country, not India. If any traditional Indians have a problem with that they should take a look at their over 2000 years old fictional historical traditions and start seeing outside the box to adapt to modern society.

Yes, White women do have better attitude and stronger sense of independence. I'm very much attracted to them. They are much prettier and fit, it's good match for me because I'm a fit atheltic guy who is successful. I'm also attracted to other races of women. GoD Bless America for variety of choices we have in this country. But I'm not attracted to Indian or Arabian(Muslim) women at all because of their restricted attitudes toward the world.

In my opinion, you should be able to date whoever you choose to date and whoever dates you back. You live in the new age and if your family doesn't understand that... well, it's too bad. I'm just telling it like it is.

It's very DEROGATORY to say that. Desi women are the most beautiful in the world. Even though physical beauty is matchless, they have more beautiful heart. For sure, they are RUDE because they don't want to SEDUCE guys like white girls who seem very POLITE at the beginning and DIVORCE their husbands for following reasons:
1. My husband is not good at sex.
2. I just don't feel that way as in the beginning, I need someone else.
3. My husband can't eat pussies.
4. I like GIRLS
5. My husband lost his job.

Don't you know that white women are NICE as they have to seduce a man to fuck them hard and quench their sexual thirst.

On the other hand an Indian woman is the real strength of her husband. The motherly and sisterly love they provide no one else can. It's only an Indian girl who has IMMENSE CONTROL ON SEX DRIVE. Even if the husband dies an Indian women lives like a celibate her whole life in the memory of her husband.

SUGGESTION: It seems like you might have seen a lot of pornographic movies. White women might be good at cock sucking but they are very mean and selfish. They change drastically. They sleep with 7 men before marriage (on an average).

Not liking an Indian girl is a sign of SELF HATRED. We have LOTS OF LIGHT SKINNED GIRLS in INDIA who don't look like ALBINO. Blonde hair looks very diseased. White women have ALMOST NO PIGMENT in their skin. They look diseased and nasty even with make up. They are sluts. Is 70% divorce not enough to prove.

An Indian girl will never leave you during tough time. Indian women are PHYSICALLY and SPIRITUALLY the most beautiful women in the world.

Indian women are GODDESS.

Go for a WHITE GIRL and you REGRET this decision your whole life.

Prove me if wrong.

Wanna see pics of BEAUTIFUL Indian girls WITHOUT MAKE UP?????? You will forget any other girl after looking at them.

In her I found all life colors ,in her hug I found peace and she is the one I wish to see every day ,and when she is not beside me I miss her every single second so much that pain is terrible.
I was shure my parents will suport me now when I finaly found happiness affter they see how unhappy I am but when I tould them about us reaction was terrible .
They still think my happyness is not worth at all !
And again they start to blackmailing ,forcing to let this woman go and bla bla ....I didnt wish to give up and still dont wish but now they blackmail me with my kid -If I go to live with love of my life my parents want let me to see my kid . My legal wife know that I love this woman a lot ,and from first moment I tell her truth about my love.I didnt wish to hide or to be cheater ,but look what happen !
Even I tryed to let love of my life go ,I gave my best to forget her but she is in my heart ,in my soul ,my mines are ful of her and I see her everywhere ,I can hear clearly her laugh and dont know what to do .
I also love my kid to much and cant only pack my stuff and left her ,my whoule life ,my workers ,my work ,even is not ok to left my parents ,but why my life have to be sacrifice and they always get what they wish from me? Is that fair?
I am shure my legal wife also dont loves me .Yes,she respect me and yes ,she enjoy security that money give to her .
I am still in this arranged marriage ,my life is tragedy without end ,only sufer and sacrifice without end. My wife and my mom make every day new mess in my life ,couse they belive my relation with this woman is only temporaly and I dont know how to explain them and prove them that this woman is love of my life and only she can be my true life partner !
My father only gives me more and more obligations ,works and dutyes but no rights .They belive if I wont have free time I will forget her ,but they dont know that she is in my mines every minute,I cant take glass of watter not to see her face ,not to make jokes with her like we usually do when we are together .
I was really great son all my life ,I gaved up from my all dreams and realised my parents wishes .
I know my family need me ,still my heart is crying .I live only to meet her ,to read her letter ,sms ,to hear her voice and days are going . Have feeling I waste our both lifes .
But dont know how to give her dignity and she deserve the best and I wish to marry her .
Badly need to find solution but I am tired to much and cant see any solution clearly.

I am Indian from highest caste and only child. My parents organise from day I was born complitely my life bounded me in family busyness no matter I wished to do something else .But who cared that time and who care today ? Affter many years living in cage I meet her ! My family dont accept HER ,she is blond ,other culture ,religion ....she is high educated ,undependent ,respected ,funy ,all my friends like her but the most important is that she is my everything !
My life was like horror movie till the day I meet her.
One day many years ago my parents didnt ask me if I wish to marry woman they choose or no and what are my planes only they tould me it is time to get marry . She was doughter of my father busyness partner ,same caste , educated but from first moment I feeled she is not my soul mate .I beged my parents not to get marry but they forced to much .
When I say to my parents that I dont wish to marry her they both become sick and blackmail me if I dont marry her my father will lose prestige ,he will get heard attack and that time I was very young and knowed only for dutyes and respect for parents,family and our society.
I married that woman and spend many years in prison -never we "learn " to love each other couse you cant force your heart to love. We were over one year married but still without kid ....again they forced me ....and finaly we got one kid .
Whoule my life I was treated like mashine ,like I am not human and dont have any emotion !!!
I fulifilled my dutyes . Dont misunderstand me ,I love me kid a lot and somebody here wrote -you can sleep with anybody ,yes ,I agree but you can make love only with person you care and love to much !
I respect my wife and try to be friendly with her but she is not my partner at all,only kid conect us !
Many years I was frustrated ,runing only from one work to another ,without life joy and laugh .Than almost 2 years ago I meet one woman who with I can talk without end ,who with I can discus ,travel ,enjoy even in small quarells,we share same interests ,life style ,hobyes ,with her I can do no matter what ,can go no matter where and everywhere we enjoy together ,with her I feel alive .

To address the main question--the particular issue doesn't matter per se. It's a choice of not women, but of whether or not to be true to yourself. When we feel uneasy, we are neglecting and resisting some part of ourselves. Once you stop resisting internally, the external situation will change to give you a perfect solution.

May be you meet other Indian people happily married to White partners, where the couple and kids enjoy community support, and your parents will warm up to the idea of a non-Indian bride. Or, you may fall in love with an Indian woman who will be your soulmate, even though you didn't think it was ever possible.

If you are true to who you are, clear about what you REALLY want, and do not resist it, it will come to you sooner than you think!! You'll see!!

i disagree 110%. you can't group people based on skin tone.

From CdnGurl (24533)^ I am in a similar situation. I was in a long distance relationship with an Indian man living in Bangalore (I'm in the U.S.) I fell in love with not just him, but with every aspect of India. He said that his family would accept us. What a lie! He said no matter what he will be with me. What another lie! Now I sit here typing this wondering if my attraction for Indian men should end. I know I have to give up on wanting to be with who I thought I loved, but should I just block the possibility of being with an Indian man out of my life?

OH and i'm sorry but i must must add this:

- Indian women came up with the Kama Sutra....and this may be TMI (hehe) but trust me...I am a very very social girl and active in the community...but Indian girls are by no means conservative in bed (after marriage of course! we have our dignity). If you don't have the patience to keep it in your pants and because you are told to buzz off by desi women, doesn't mean that their angry and bitter...thats means they're not interested in that....try a conversation first huh?

-Go right now and google "the most beautiful woman in the world"
do you know who's pictures come up?? yep, those top 5 pictures??? is an Indian woman. The only reason some of you people think indian women are ugly, is because you are only exposed to Fox news media it seems...to the rest of the world...you know, the other BILLIONS of people, Indian women are some of the most gorgeous in the world. Shushmita sen, Frida Pinto, Aishwariya Rai, Bipasha Basu, Shilpa Shetty..just to name a few of the famous ones.

- You want to know the running joke amongst most desi girls and guys?? lol ONLY ugly, fobby desi's marry white guys/girls....because the white people can't really tell! Oh, the ugly fobby ones AND the ones that think they can come to N.A for like a few months are "like totally cool yarr, i know, liiiaakkke all the brands and all the hot hot clubs yar, too cool...u want some hot gaaarls? I know hot gaarlsss" Aka. losers. I'm so sorry to break the bad news, but thats the honest truth! The best was when I met this desi girl and her white husband...and as she was leaving the party, ms-too-cool-for-school was saying "daaaaaaarling, this is such a fobbby party yar!" LOL all in a desi accent. puh-leeze. so unnecessary!

SO desi boy, try harder! and white people...thats the honest truth...if you're dating a desi...mostly likely they're total losers already and ostracized from their community (which is why they 'hate' the culture)
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I am indian man, and i am only attracted to white and Latina women. I am not attracted to indian women, i find them arrogant, angry, and rather unattractive.

It is normal.

Look here on the fours, and you will see that the indian women are very angry.

i am a diehard muslim...i always also wanted to lead a spiritual life...i love that eastern european girl..and would very much want to marry someone like her...SAY NO TO LUST..
i personally think its wrong to generalize women and men..white women are have their share of good and bad...just like any other...so if u fail witha white woman on date..fine no problem..try another one..but its wrong to generalize..again hats off to schima

quite the opposite:

there are actually more attractive indian women than indian men. I think. indian men tend to be hairy and scrawny. there was even an article about how they couldn't fit standard condoms. in general they don't have a lot of game either. they are not good at approaching women and are too conservative/boring in bed. sry it's the truth

Priya Rai is a clown.

Herneed to fend for 1.2 billion people is pretty sad, and speaks volumes. As if this person was elected/selected in defense of the so called nation.

India praises--as one of its very, very few strengths--its culture, rooted in tradition. This is only because India has not yet matured into the big-time in respect to urbanization. 70-80 percent of Indians reside in villages, where tradition dies hard. They praise themselves, in fact, Indians are funny because they cannot stop self-congratulations, but do not realize that their cultural strength is not on account of them,but based primarily on economics. But then again, its basically the only card they can play.

Indian women--those born/raised here in the USA are crap, for the most part. In short, they are embracing a gutter culture, characterized by excessive consumerism, individualism, radical egalitarianism, and living for the moment. This, in America folks, is known as the feel-good society.

"do what you want, because you only live once"
"do not mind the consequences of your actions!"

To the OP, if you are attracted to only white women, god bless you, because, you certainly will need it. Get ready for a few divorces brought on by unfaithfulness & low IQ characteristic by whites/blacks, probably a few std's--certainly 1 (HPV), unwelcome racism where you look and turn, and in general, a spouse who weighs about 150 lbs more than when you wed her--15 yrs prior--mainly due to lack of self-discipline.

Want evidence? Visit nomarriage.com.

The bottom line is--prepare yourself for marrying into a gutter culture, brought about by modern liberalism, evoked by radical individualism. Think of how different my gmoms generation was (1930s), in contrast to the garbage you see today.

Are all whites in the west like this? no. I can confidently state the majority are. Just examine our divorce rate, our out of wedlock rate, our abortion rate, our crime rate, etc. its characteristic of the culture.

to the OP: Avoid American white women at all cost! even white men are leaving them, due to the excessive baggage (i.e. their insecurities evident in plastic surgery, voluminous tattoos, broken families (7/10 divorce rate in USA), losing virginity by age of 15, poor decisions brought about by the low IQs, their excessive need to spend, etc.

the list is endless.

we dont even want our women. no joke.

ok.so you're indian and you already have kids?where do you live?I'm white and my boyfriend is indian and we totally love each other!!!His parents wanted him to get an arranged marriage too, but that's not what he wanted to he went against the grain and now he doesn't talk to his family anymore.Big deal.They didn't like him anyways and they made him work for free at their stupid store for 2 years!!!Fuck indians and their culture!!!Do what you want!!It's your life!!

Everyone knows Indian girls are hottest. just stick her in bikinis in public from 12 on at onset of ovulation in India like they do in Us &mexico for regular wear, forget saris & punjabi salwar kurthis dresses See anvari.org stars without makeup to see the brown spots &heavy wrinkling by 30's 40's.

Priya Rai is a hottie!!

Stay away from our women! lol :)

It sounds like a serious conflict though. If you're afraid of being ostracized, perhaps you should continue exploring your options with Indian women.

I assume that you're living in Western country if you're surrounded by White women all the time. Perhaps you should try to meet some Western-born Indian women... I'm American, and in my experience, the cultural standards are frequently different between American-born foreign women and foreign women born in their countries of origin. I knew a number of American-born Indian girls in college who seemed more American than Indian, culturally speaking at least.

Maybe it's possible to have your cake and eat it too... find an Indian woman whose values and habits are a bit different from the Indian norm, and you might end up finding happiness but also avoiding social ostracism in your own Indian community.

i don't blame you, indian women are nasty and have mustaches and smell like curry. but so do you.

I find that a lot of these comments seem to ridicule indian women.

"I am Indian, and I must say that i find Indian women very unattractive--both physically and mentally. in my opinion, they are quite ugly looking, most of them"

"White women, I just can't think of anyone else. They're pleasing to the senses, have a sweet attitude and, I like their strong sense of independence. Indian women, in contrast, are"

Where is the hate coming from? Is it necessary? Many o

I dated a white girl at work and after I told her I wanted to marry own, she said India is 3rd world to everyone at work.

so @Priyaraixx...this is what they are best at, calling insults or racist anything they can say when many races marry their own for good reason.

you people are so narrow-minded its incredible.

First of all, in Indian culture...actually South asian culture in general, the family is sacred and we strive to look beyond our individualistic tendencies to do what is best for ourselves and the family. For us, the smiles and happiness of our families is fulfilling. It is only when western society tries to push their 'acceptable' mindsets on us that it destroys our beautiful dynamics. Read all the posts, its mostly the 'white' people that say "focus on YOUR OWN wants and happiness" and that "your wife is the most important"??? I'm sorry, but in our culture, the family...your father, your mother...has been there from birth, sacrificing for you, loving you, caring for you....actually every member of your immediate and extended family is there for you...and you are choosing to sacrifice all that because of your notions of what Indian women are like.

it is also 80%% divorce rate for them after 7 years... and millions of families are stepparents, - see book by Hoffman & Averett Women and the Economy 2004

think carefully how many Indian families you know are divorced after kids (women play a big role, particularly Indian women :)) or have stepparents situation
there's alot you don't know...how different we are as cultures.. we did aarti every night, went to temple every week, what will your life be like after the sex? mcdonalds? porn? horror movies? isn't there more to life?

it takes that conservatism and religion to make relationships work, the devotion to family (all), the fresh meals we ate everyday..our Dads even helped our moms! What will your foreign wife feed you everyday? turkey, cow, chicken, liver, ham burgers?? frozen food? how will you raise the children? atheists? and do you realize that all of your Indian ness will be gone within 2nd 3rd generation? your kids if they don't have Hindu mother and raised on nothing "Indian and all relevant traditions from puja attendnce to Raksha Bhandhan" will marry foreign?

anyway...good luck :)

sorry, I forgot to mention y I brought up the wrinkles..melanin skin damage in Google & someone stated white girls are the hottest (of course a white woman isn't going to say Indian women are the hottest lol) we're just not the nudest in India...you will never see someone's mom or sis doing nude dances for whole public for $5 nor women walking in underwear in India..

and it is a fact we keep our age alot slower as a majority & don't need botox much younger, it's science behind the melanin & skin damage...unless you & your friends are stay at home moms well, then there you go, your skin was protecting from uva & uvb damage (melanin skin damage in Google)I know us Hindu Indians are supposed to be sheepish & terrified of the white majority here...soooo sorry I am not especially with the history of killing natives & S. Americans (Columbus genocide danielpaul.com)

Everyone has a right to defend their religion, culture, genes, and you should be stronger about it to not be so offended! 99%% of us marry within anyway as do most ethnicities/religions so really a response is unnecessary.

Don't be too offended....see immihelp.com and really read thru the comments from pages 1-7

they are all insults at Indian women and culture....usually if there's some $ to be made because a given ethnicity's mom & dad worked their asses off to give their kids a good life after losing majority of it's wealth from UK colonization...well, other women come running for their piece of the pie to be stay at home moms &wives. Not one of our Hindu moms was a stay at home from coming to this country.

Indian women have to take alot of insults especially frm the foreign women on forums & real life. I don't take it personally because I know how difficult it is to find a very religious husband like the Baptist and practicing Christians in US. Hindus are the same...so I"m not offended nor are the millions of Indian women that get insulted by foreign women who want "Indian boyfriends" so neither should you be...on that forum we are referred to as "promiscuous, gold diggers, unattractive, entitled, easy, too traditional, blah blah blah." p.s. we're not Indian, we're Hindu in same way most of you are Catholic or Christian or Muslim :)

White woman are more beautiful they are kind and willing to please their man sexually without shame of their sexuality that doesn't make u a slut it makes u proud in your body and men enjoy that quality. U brown women have 10% of what we have all u can do is clean and make roti. Ur child raising and husband pleasing skills are limited and u just gossip on the phone to ur mom or friends ignoring your husband relationships are just bank notes to you. I have never seen a woman get naked in a strip club or anywhere else for less than $100 and I don't know any strippers. Your people are told these lies to keep your men with you and your families intact because If your men knew we white women could take care of one of your men better than you mentally emotionally spiritually a lot of ur hubbies will realise he's living with manipulating money greedy black gorilla women and run for the hills. The truth hurts!

Btw I'm also of Indian descent but rest of family born in Puerto Rico due to lack of money in india they came from poor area n chose to be better in there life. ....my family is from north indian dehra dun an his from chennai nadu....so caste barrier are all non existent now....The country is changing so lease let's be a bit more respectful of our design selves

I am a Spanish woman whom married her tamil husband .....i can honestly tell u our marriage is a rare one but we are very much together n in love....it isn't rare for men whom are indian to go against there roots it's just the character of that person weather they will choose for themselves or be chosen a wife by there parents...at the time he had many woman back home whom were wanting him to be arranged with him but even after only a month of us being together he choose to marry me following his heart....There will always be respect for his family as much as I have from mine toward him.. they also like me he has no children and I have 3 kids whom he cares for as his.....ladies don't be fooled by these stories people tend to see the negative in different cultures but honestly my husband is wonderful , caring , encouraging. ..n just everything I'd hope for if that man can't commit don't take the arrange marriage excuse fact is they are just not into u...This not only goes for indian men but any man...
Good luck ladies..

Hey the same is the issue with me..I love white women from the heart but have been unable to do so i dont know for what circumstances..Its absolutely normal..And my parents are pretty much okay with it..But i am unable to control my patience and unable to meet a white woman in india..

I understand that you are attracted to White Women and that you believe that you will not be able to be attracted to an Indian Woman the same way. I don’t know how long ago you posted but I will tell you that however you choose you must be very strong and willing to commit to your choice. Are you strong enough to stand up to your family even if they refuse to speak to you? Will you be strong enough to accept the White Woman you choose to marry as your family and move forward with just her and begin your own family?

Let me explain my situation to you. My husband and I are both in our 40’s. We have both been divorced and I have a child. I am a White American Woman of Puerto Rican decent and my husband is Indian. We were introduced by a mutual person and we spoke for several months before he flew into New York to meet me. When I met him I felt a strong attraction towards him. We were able to spend one day together and he was flying off again. He flew back into New York on New Year’s Eve. We spent several glorious days together and he told me quite effortlessly that he loved me and I found it easy to fall in-love with him. He repeatedly asked me to marry him and I decided to accept; quite spontaneously on my part. We had spent a total of 11 days together at this point and I decided to accept his marriage proposal, on the 14th day we were married and on the 15th day he left the country for a pre-planned trip to India to visit him mother. I admire the fact that he cares for his mother. I am a believer that if a man is good to his mother then he will be good to his wife.

Now the reason I say that you need to be certain and strong about the choice you make is because it has come to my attention that his mother is not happy that he married an American Women who is not Hindu. Remember, he is a divorced grown man in his 40’s. A man that should be able to make life choices for himself yet I notice that his mother has had a strong influence on him. He stopped calling to tell me he loved me, he has not called me to have a conversation, and if I happen to call him and he is at his mother’s home he immediately says that he has to leave to go to market. I have discussed with him my concerns over the lack of our communication but he says that I do not understand that if I were there then I would. He is not aware that I know his mother is not happy. He is returning soon and I know I need to Women-Up and get over my hurt feelings but repeated actions on his part have left me feeling disheartened.

So please make certain that whatever choice you do make that you make it wholeheartedly and that you are willing to stand by your choice and your lifetime companion.

hello everyone//i am 24 year old an Indian boy//i agreed with that statement and yes white women are truly having an amazing personality in my eyes.They live their life with full of happiness, entertainment and joy. They knows exactly the meaning of life because no one knows when we get ends, no one knows which days is our last day. They learnt new things in every stage of life// yeah they are much modern than us but its not wrong to be//i personally don't worried about which religion i belongs bcoz i believe in humanity// the n....numbers of indian boys who wants to live their whole life with a pretty white woman so i am the one of them who always dreamed to marry a white woman and waiting for my perfect partner// i hope my dream comes true one day// All the best all of you for your life//

You are perfectly normal, Don't worry!
Im a 22 yrs old married an Indian guy from Mumbai. We live in Brazil with my family very happy.
The atraction for white womam really exist, and The atraction for indian guy from brazilian part too exist.I think the people should be free to choose with whom they are going to marry and live the entire life, have children ect etc... Indian society is so closed, mad and bad....I haed an experience with a guy who the family didnt allow us to get engaged, and he did acept....What can I do? Im in the other part of the world, I had to accept and live with this pain, 6 months later I found my real indian prince and im being very happy with him ad his modern family. Try, Go ahead and find your white girl, In Brazil that are a lot waiting! Good Luck with the family and God bless your life!

humm...so much arguments here....
Well, I have decided to marry a girl outside India. I am 39. anybody thereeeeeeeeeeeeeeee???

look India has had its share of a substantiated mistreatment of women....even their own, with child sex, incestuous relations, and 'kitchen fires'; all this name-calling boils own to one thing: weakness. The reason most people don't do the right thing, because its too damn hard! Vedic tradition allows for all sorts of marriages, indian families d ont want to lose their indian or caste identity...each person has to decide how important that is to them. i m a first generation american from east european background. i learned that honoring your mother and father is important, but everything comes from love, not obedience.

look India has had its share of a substantiated mistreatment of women....even their own, with child sex, incestuous relations, and 'kitchen fires'; all this name-calling boils own to one thing: weakness. The reason most people don't do the right thing, because its too damn hard! Vedic tradition allows for all sorts of marriages, indian families d ont want to lose their indian or caste identity...each person has to decide how important that is to them. i m a first generation american from east european background. i learned that honoring your mother and father is important, but everything comes from love, not obedience.

Funny topic, iam 23 indian guy here, dude you are 26 and still u need a forum to say that u need balls to marry a girl? if you still dint get what i say, consider yourself you arn't yet fit to marry a girl!! i can see that no women at first liked you. if they did and u did back, then u wont be here.

Take this too, iam gonna marry a different race girl, and my family will be the same like yours. but i know i can deal with any prob for her. do you want me to post a video on you tube to learn?? but you gotta wait for couple more years... no offense grow on kid, and don't put culture and family in the middle of your non functioning brain. Alryt.. Peece.

And the rest of you, stop debating about Indian/White women's... Every guy who enter this topic knows the girl whom he is gonna marry is hotter.. bunch of bloggers...

BUT A HARDCORE TRUTH:
ANY INDIAN MAN WHO SAYS SO ---- THE LAMEST AND THE MOST BOUGHT OVER EXCUSE “OH I AM TERRIBLY SORRY… BUT MY PARENTS DON’T WANT ME TO MARRY A WHITE WOMAN” …. IS JUST PLAINLY LYEING …….. IN REALITY HE (THE INDIAN GUY) JUST HAD AN INITIAL FUN PAST-TIME WITH A WHITE WOMAN AND THEN IS AGAIN READY FOR A NEW SOURCE OF FUN WITH A TAGLINE …. …… AND MOST OFTEN YOU WON’T RECEIVE THIS REPLY…. AS THEY ARE BUSY SCREWING THEIR NEW WIVES (NEWLY WED INDIAN WIVES)….. AND YOU WONT PROBABLY HEAR FROM HIM ANYMORE----- IF YOU ARE LUCKY THEN YOU GET THE ANSWER IN AN ABRUPT MANNER OR SOMETIMES STRAIGHT FORWARD… DEPENDING ON THE NATURE OF MAN…….

I don’t get the fact of Generalizing an Indian Woman to be Ugly/Harsh/ in general….. And the Whites being rude/selfish/ Easy … Bla Bla…. CHECK YOUR EYES PEOPLE OR GET A MENTAL CHECKUP… there are uncountable beautiful women on both the sides….. with a Good nature and a Pure Heart…

I have a strict Rule which many Indians and many western people might consider Lame…. “I will not date any woman until and unless I am stable and fixed to a certain place” - and till Date I have done so….. I feel that it would be wrong on my part to do so…. It might not cause me any major pain (I am not sure-still)…. But the other might get Deeply Hurt…. SO IF THERE IS ANYONE HERE WITH THIS THOUGHT THEN…. I HOPE YOU HAVENT HURT OR BROKEN ANYONES HEART :) KUDOS.... :)

LOT of comments here are based on SEX….. IF one has to have just SEX…. Then preference should b given to a Prostitute (NOT A PERTICULAR RACE OR COLOUR OF WOMAN)…. She will meet your demands fully ….and yes …… YOU CAN SELECT COLOURS :) !!!!! SO Y IRRITATING THE OTHERS (General INDIAN WOMEN AND WHITE WOMEN)….. SPEND 100 BUCKS OR LESS - I DON’T KNOW how much … HAVENT EVER BEEN WITH ONE :) … I AM SURE ALL THE SLEZEBALL INDIAN IN FOREIGN LAND CAN AFFORD THAT MUCH…. AS MOST HAVE GOOD SALARIES ;) ………… If you are true to your partner regarding your Sexual Issues then I hardly doubt that you would not get the attention from her the way u want…..

AND SERIOUSLY …. WHERE DOES MOTHERS AND SISTERS COME FROM IN THESE DISCUSSIONS…. REALLY LAME…..

BTW I HAVE NEVER BEEN IN LOVE, BUT I CAN SAY IT’S NOT EXCLUSIVE THAT AN INDIAN MAN ONLY LIKES WHITE WOMAN….
BEAUTY IS IN THE EYE OF THE BEHOLDER…….

I am not a native speaker/writer of English…. So pardon me if I am really out of the block nywhere :)

WOW ! .

That’s the first word that comes to my mind after reading all the comments in this blog post…… I literally read all the posts from top to bottom :).. I have a lot of free time :) And I felt bad when Indian males were said as bad people….. Not all are bad… and one must get to know him….. judging by the actions but not by the sweet words…. Coz action speaks more than words….. A generalization would not be a fair thought…

Girls would definitely know which male is a sex starved beast and a mean person…. I guess…..

I don’t know whether this thread is active or not but still … As an Indian man I would definitely like to put forward my feelings regarding this topic of discussion.

I am an Indian, and I do have to admit that a lot of people have put out their thoughts regarding this issue of White women being liked more often by Indian men……

Liking or disliking doesn’t come from Color, Cast, Religion, Nationality….. it comes from within (MY PERSONAL FEELING)….. Even if your parents say that don’t marry her or so, then also you will marry the girl of your dreams (I KNOW I AM RIGHT ABOUT THIS)…. Becoz u know it’s your Life and you would love it to be lived happily than just for sake of your Parents will….

I am not a Judge of character but my life experience has taught me a lot….. I lived my whole life…. Well the current ongoing life :) of 25 years in many parts of INDIA…. From North to South , East to West…… and some other places outside INDIA like south East Asia and the Middle east (Don’t misjudge me for some businessman--- I am just a student :))…. And I have seen many women of different places and cultures and Truthfully I liked many of them….. irrespective of wat they do, wear, speak…

I have also seen many cases of my friends Dumping girls in India…. Everyone has their own story… And I doubt that you would not b convinced with such lies and treachery…. That has all been delivered with utmost excellence and convincing setups …. I am not saying it validates only for boys… But The girls too have a different set of wings and they buzz off with light speed from one flower to another….

NOT All women are good …… and White women if u r dating an Indian guy … TRUST ME (Not becoz I am an Indian)…. They are not Loosers (Found in some post !!!!) …. They are just looking for their right Partner…. Whether it B in India or Anywhere in the world…. They Think Different… From the rest of the crowd…..

Continued........

I am a white woman dating an american born Indian man. I love him very much. We were friends first and he is more than I ever could have asked God for. We had an instant connection where we talked for hours and hours at a time. He is my best friend & Ive never met anyone else like him. I see a long term future with him (possibly marriage) and he has said the same, but I do worry about how I would be received by his family... he says that I cannot meet his parents until we get engaged. I find issue with this because you marry the family as well... I want to know his family before I say yes to marrying him. Obviously this is an issue we have to work out. (BTW, I have dated men from other cultures before and there were no issues with the difference in culture or the family not accepting me so I truly believe this can work).

He says that his parents are very traditional, but that his cousins have married white women, and so he does not think it will be a problem. However, I worry that I won't be accepted and that I'll have to deal with more heartache than I can imagine. I have heard that indian men only want to marry indian women... and that they believe white girls are easy. My boyfriend says this is untrue and not how he thinks.

This entire thread should have nothing to do with race, but rather the love between two people and whether or not two people from different cultures are a good match for marriage. I love my boyfriend for who he is and although we come from different backgrounds we can connect on an incredible level and communicate our unique perspectives on the world... and so I think it would work because we can, and already have, helped each other understand who we are and where we come from. Because i love him so much, I would do anything to embrace his culture as much as I can, and Im sure he would do the same for me.

Race is a social construct meant to divide and elevate those seeking power. Why are we still feeding into it? Especially in a discussion about marriage?? Power for what? I can understand differing beliefs/culture that would make a marriage unsuccessful... but this would play out in the marriage itself... meaning that all white women who marry indian men will result in divorce... this is obviously not true as there are no absolutes in this world.... and i dont believe anyone has yet posted that statistic.

All these generalizations need to stop. If the issue is with the family accepting someone of a different background (on both sides), then that is what needs to be addressed. Not who ages more gracefully.

i cant begin to imagine your pain as i am white (well actually, 1/4 native Canadian but mostly white) i believe you should marry whoever you want, if that means moving to a different country (if you have the means to do so) then i think if it means you being happy, go for it. you can always teach your children about India and their language. just because it wont be in Asia doesn't mean they can't speak the language or learn about their country. if your family does not approve of it then you just need to learn to say "i don't care". if my family ever got in my way of who i wanted to marry, even though i love them very much, i would have to just tell them to back off and let me do what i want. you deserve to be happy, so move to a place where you can marry a white woman and be fairly free of racism (like Canada, while there will always be racism, Ontario seems to be a fairly racist free place) move to Toronto, there they have many different types of people. many of the people my dad works with are either indian or muslim or black etc.

I dated an indian guy who I still love very much but he's parent dint acept me I am Hispanic and have a daughter from a previous marriage andi understand its hard to accept that in d Indian culture but I do think dat wen u truly love someone you should fight to be with them coz at the end you'll be the one suffering with a person you don't love do what makes you happy if its been with a person in your own culture o in a different one has long has thers love

i am married to a native amaerican and im a white girl, his family was not happy considering they belive in keeping there blood line strong i am now pregnant and they can hardly look at me... but bottom line we are extremly happy and i love him iwth all my heart and im one to think thats all that matters:)

I don’t think it’s wrong you like white women at all. I am a white woman marrying an Indian man and we are very happy together, I think it’s all a matter of option actually. The only 2 things that are major problems in our situation are that him and I are Christians and his family are all Hindu, and that once we get married his family will disown him. We can deal with the Christianity/Hindu problem quite easily really, but the disowning part breaks my heart. He says eventually they will come around and except us but that could take months, but probably years really. So the only advice I can give to you is make sure you are ready to live a double life for a while, well at least that’s how I feel my Fiancé is living right now. He lives the life his family “thinks” he is living when he is with them and he is living the way he really “wants to live” with me. I will be pray for you and your situation and I do hope everything works out for you.

@CdnGurl (24533)
That must be very hard for you. I hope this love of yours comes to his senses and never lets you go. He will not be happy in the end and will always remember you and pine for you if he makes the wrong choice. .

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Dont judge a book by is cover is an overused cliche, but its more and more true in our integrated global society. The race or tradiation culture associated with that race is become more of a sterotype as individuals are breaking away more from traditions and really paying attention to who THEY are as individuals and what TRULY makes them happy. Not all white women are the same, not all latinas are the same, not all indian women are the same. What have they been exposed to, where did they grow up, what have been their life experience, how were they raised? These make a difference in the person and these things impact the indivuduals growth as a person. You will find the result attractive or not.

I am not attracted to older men. I am 28, but I did meet a 45 yr old man with whom I met through work. As I got to know himm, I noticed qualties that I found very attractive and thus found HIM attractive and age no longer mattered. I realized I wasnt attracted to older men, Im still not. But I was attracted to HIM. I have been attracted to another one since because I haven't met a man who I connected with like since in his age range. I am not attracted to blond men initially. But I have dated one as WHO he was I was naturally attracted to. I dated a successful, athletic 32 yr old white male- on paper and picture a NO-Brainer to date and want to marry. BUT after 3 years of dating I found he had an alter-ego and despite having a white-collar lifestyle and image was also the most street savy, manipulative person every. (Later a diagnosed Narcissist).And he cheated on me with women only of different ethnic backgrounds than mine.

What my point is, the qualities we associate with as being attractive are inexplicately linked to our experiences (limited/predominate). Only the individual will know if the attractional need is genuine or lustful if they are honest with them self about the attraction.

By the way, I am a 29 yr old white woman with a bachelors degree and pursuing MBA. I come from a strict Christian upbringing, born in semi-Rural America with living in a big-city for the last 6 yrs of my adult life. My opinion, from experience is that it is possible for a person to have a sterotypical attraction to a culture, if that culture emphsises a trait the individual finds themselves genuinely attracted to and necessary LONG TERM.

YES- This is NORMAL.

@: keshainulk
there is a difference between having "a picture of your wife" and a picture a wife who is your wife because she is white. Someone is not more fun based on race or skin color. White skin doesn't necessarily = more fun. You are grouping indian women into a category. You can't do that to any group.

you all whitiies and White washed indian are sL**ts breed,
Priya i love you my sister, you are really an true Hindu girl..you proved it.:D

Majority of the comments here show that there are alot of prejudice people out there. Everyone judges... Everyyybody... And you DEFINANTLY cannot judge a book by it's cover. I am a mid 20's Hindu girl here... Hi! And ya I will admit some Hindu, Punjab, Muslim girls got attitude, are stuck up, love drama and claim to be all innocent when really they're not. But... I see this with anyyy girl. No matter what race what color or religion you are it's all on how a guy or a girl is brought up, who their influences are, who they hang out. Ppl rub off on eachother. But it realllyyy aggravates me how alot of you on here are bashing on eachother saying the typical stereotypical things like brown girls are hair and white girls are easy bla bla bla. EVERYONE LOVES SEX... the ones who have it... SEX IS NORMAL!!! I'm not saying I sleep around lol I'm actually in a relationship i been in for almost 3 years we live together but here's my situation...

So my bf now, is also Hindu, he's only dated white girls before me, it's preference for people. I guess he thought all brown chicks are psycho and stayed away from them. But i was the exception, cuz he saw that u can't just categorize girls by racisis ( lol sorry autocorrect keeps spelling that) anyway there are also psycho whites girls, psycho Asian girls, psycho Filipino girls... WE HAVE HORMONES GUYS DEAL WITH IT!!! but my dilemma is the physical part of my relationship with my bf is I get the feeling maybe he isn't as attracted to me cuz I'm always the one to start the engines and get the sexy time started... But majority of the time i get shut down... He says he's tired from work or he ate too much... Which is the case most times... He is a big guy... But could it be that his preference of staying away from
Brown girls before... I'm not fat... I'm not hairy... And I know I can't be ugly cuz I still turn heads but what's his issue?? Anybody?? I've asked him but seriously do guys ever just come out an say it lol...

i agree 100%

First off you come from a non-white culture and you are going to sit here and say that you prefer a white woman. That is not coincidence.

Many white culture have conquered non-white cultures and imposed their standards, which include their WHITE BEAUTY STANDARD. (brits/india, americans/slaves, portugese, french,dutch/africa)

Many indian men prefer white woman because in India light skin in seen as superior and therefor pale skinned white woman are godesses and other woman are plain.

I find it offensive and hurtful that you as an Indian man are here putting white women on a pedestal over indian women especially since non-white women historically have been told they are not as beuatiful by white men, white society, the media..and now in your case even by their own indian men. it's sad, racist and pathetic.

it kills me when i see an indian guy with a white godess yet, the same guy would be treating an indian woman like she is not worth anything. you are prejudiced against your own race.

and it seem everyone on here is agreeing with you because they are male or white. most white people will not understand ANYTHING i'm saying because they are coming froma white perspective which is ignorant of non-white culture. it seems you are just the same.

you are not an abishek bachan...rather you are an sanjay gupta or arun nayar...i'm sure you think aishwarya rai is OK and Elizabeth hurley, pam anderson, jessica simspon are godesses. and you call yourself an indian man? i'm surprised you are not bleaching your skin right now...

right on... cant think of other race for marrige...Donno why this fuss. ..loved your first comment!

So move to America. Everyone else on Earth has.

@ Katrina's boyfriend

Get a paternity test if you're smart (they are 100%% accurate) My family has seen the kids from foreign marriages also, they are more like Mexicans or complete mutts as adults but every kid looks like the Dad (Dad's skin, Dad's eye color, Dad's hair color)but acts like the Mom, hard to explain. I wish I could invite you to my facebook to give you proof, but it is like 15 kids we know of.....not one of these kids has white skin not even from white guys we know of married to Indian female. Green eyes and blue eyes are recessive traits. Both parents need to have them to pass them down.

you can't beat on them as much and they're real independent. i like them too. you could probably get one. you have to get a job and all.

ya no kidding they get so much easy sex here compare to india these girls here put out for a dollar. holllllaaaa back homes

Such a funny section..I dated Italian white Catholic at 17 and his parents broke off the relationship, I didn't turn into a MaryJane or Katrina hurling insults and name calling or all the insults at Indian women in first 7 pages in immihelp..

Do you want to know why? Because for families that are not "mutts" it is "respectable". I actually respected it and was like, wow! When I dated casually a gorgeous Greek fellow for a month, and he said he will marry his own Greek Catholic to pass on language, I did not SCREAM INSULTS AND HITLER and all these disgusting comments from the white women or whoever..

But then again, I am not relying on a man to support me forever so perhaps this is reason for not feeling anything hostile towards these fellows, perhaps cuz I and majority of us grew up the way they did, in homogenous north Indian families and was only serious for myown for marriage only---- too like they are!

So please stop using "RACIST" as a tactic..many white families took sons out of will we know of, it is usually only "RACIST" and hostile when it has to do with women finding career men who will provide for them forever. All the foreign women we know married to Indian male, minimum worked after marriage, while every Indian Hindu female worked until her 60's even with kids!

So until you can call the Greek and Italian fellows I dated or their parents RACIST OR A HITLER then I suggest you take it back! :)

Priya I know what you are saying is true. It is always okay for them to insult Indian women but if someone states facts they become insane like the Maryjane comments and say Indian women are this Indian women are that. My mother is an Indian woman, I cannot see that either. I read the Immi comments- they are bad how much they insult any part of India to get gold digging statistics higher. India has won most Miss Universes and Mis Worlds, let them say what they want. They will always have to put our sisters down if their is money they can make from a man. Thank you for sharing everything, it takes alot of guts knowing how racist whites are or any other race. it isn't fair to kids to make them grow up in so many religions and cultures and race home and then go thru racism their whole life..and is it the risk you are willing to take to have your kids mrried to another race? is it worth it? so glad we have such beautiful Indian girls to choose from,and they don't hate or insult their own in way these foreign women do. I dated some white girls and the way they talk about Mexican girls and give them dirty looks, you would be amazed...it is human nature maybe. I told them from the beginning Ihave arranged marriage and they tried many manipulative tactics and anger...You are right if there is money to be made and a life at home forever then of course they are angry. Scary for our Indian girls, and us Indian men should think of them.

well sir , its totally normal..

i mean choice of ethnicity of women

i like brunettes not blondes,black women,and a bit arabian women too

its totally perceptional..
i don't see why parents should take away the liberty of choosing ur bride

thats the problem the common indian male faces..and hell it really is a gr8 pain in the ass for a man of ur age with a good job
-parents hurrying u up to get a "bahu".

damn it the empty dogmas of society and culture bullshit i don't like this only about my country's culture...

we're slaves to the indian culture and societal restrictions-we can't fking enjoy our lives leave that,talk of indian girls! its even more a hell for them!

By turning away potential brides, you have made snap judgments on them and frankly, that's not terribly fair. There is no harm going out on the occasional blind date and see how it goes. If you still feel the same way by the end of the experience, then fine.

In the meantime though, I'm going through something very similar. I'm ethnic chinese living in the UK and I really admire white women for their independence and their ambition. Subconciously though, I know that my parents will object to my going out with a white girl.

I decided sometime ago that I will do as I like that I know will make me happy. Because ultimately, my parents will be even more unhappy if I marry the wrong person and end up getting divorced later on. You should do the same too. You might break a few hearts, but you'll be surprised to know that some of your friends and family back home will ultimately respect your decision.